Integrating the divine feminine and divine masculine - the heart is the new base line
from Diana of Anakosha
(Letters received from individuals are never posted, only my responses are shown.)
from Diana of Anakosha
(Letters received from individuals are never posted, only my responses are shown.)
3/4/18 - Dear S, Yes, I remember meeting you both. We have stopped hosting swing parties. Now I am hosting The Massage Club, which is meeting here at our house on the first Saturday of every month. My husband is not interested in massage but he is lovingly supportive and stays in the background. It is not for swinging. Last night we had four couples here. We were holding the massages over at another couple's house since November, because our house was hit pretty hard by Irma. But now we are meeting here. Even though we don't have the screen room repaired yet, it's workable.
Last night, of the four couples who were here, two of them we knew before, and two other couples were new. I started out the evening by demonstrating in the living room on a massage table how to give a loving massage to a person. I told them "You don't have to 'feel' loving," as one woman said she couldn't do that for someone she didn't know, but I said, "Just be kind." The plan is to swap massages with someone other than your own partner, man to woman and woman to man for gender balance, since men find it awkward to massage other men. Some are OK with it, but most men prefer to massage a woman, so to keep it comfortable for everyone we are keeping it to couples only, or gender balanced.
The purpose of the massage club is to swap massages with someone other than their own mate. Everyone already knows the touch and feel of their own partner and are, in essence, a closed energy circuit. There is among everyone a desire to expand but it's uncomfortable to reach out and touch someone without a reason, or with permission. Here we are providing a reason (massage) and permission. So it's a safe house. It's for growth and personal expansion. Personal psychology is a learning experience and mostly comes about from experience. So here we experience new people. Exchange energies with other people through touch and talking. We can't expand without becoming somewhat intimate, at least a little more than we do in normal circumstances. Just how intimate is always the question. In swinging I learned a lot, but it was always focused on sex. That shut out a lot of people who weren't ready for that intense experience. And it shut down the gentle and sensitive nature of people who just wanted to feel good.
Massage is an easier way to assist people to become a little more close and to actually touch with caringness, with kindness, in a more real and authentic way, and a nice way to expand your circle of friends. We have to keep it small, however, because we only have room for four tables. With two people to a table that's all we can handle with four couples unless we experiment with three people to a table. The future is open for different possibilities, according to how familiar the attendees become. At this point I'm unsure just how large a number we want to have on a given day. In between massages we meet in the kitchen for snacks and it's nice and cozy there, not much room for more people. When the screen room gets repaired we can enlarge it a little more. Maybe put a massage table out there since our house is small. Meanwhile we are trying to find someone to help repair the screen room. All the aluminum companies are booked solid for two or three years since Irma.
At each meeting we have open discussion. We have to decide who is going to massage who so we have to talk, and reveal whatever it is we want others to know about us. We drop the mask and become more real and practical. I will assist. As the leader I will invite people to speak freely so everyone is included. I want everyone to talk and be a participant, but not by force. It is important that everyone be comfortable. I am very open because I have been in the loving lifestyle for many years and have been involved with many different types of individuals and learned from them, adapted through that exposure. But I don't expect others to be as open as I am because not many people have had the experiences I have had. I have grown very fond of people by experiencing closeness with so many and I want to help others to enjoy the freedom of openness as I do. . Therefore, I am here to facilitate the process of becoming more genuine and honest, to let go of former tight boundaries which are suffocating and cause distress. Expand and stretch out of former boundaries and create new ones that work more pleasantly for you. All within reason so you feel good with yourself and not feel coerced or under any pressure.
Each time we gather, the attendance is different. As a group we adapt to meet the needs of those involved. Comfort zones are important and caring for others is the means to create mutual comfort zones. Some of the couples we've had here are going up north for the summer, so I'll keep promoting to get some local, full-time residents involved. Pass the word. And even though everyone is different in looks, shape, age, personality, race, cultural background, education, skill and experience, yet there is still a common element within human nature which is kind and decent. It is THAT which I am seeking in people. It's very natural and wholesome. I am cultivating that in people even as I write to them, as I am writing to you two. There is genuine feeling on that level that is warm and good and inclusive, not exclusive.
Loved hearing from you. Feel free to write more and ask questions,
Diana on Anakosha
7/31/17 - Dear K, Thank you for writing to us about tantric massage. I see that David has already responded to your message. We both get messages through Anakosha. David and I live separately but we work together in a joint project dedicated to unfolding love and light in a way that is human, down to earth and real. Tantra has been our magnet. We are both drawn to it, each in our separate ways. He as a man is licensed as a massage practitioner and therefore is very good with the feminine energies (due to the biology of male-female attraction). I on the other hand am writing about it. I maintain the Anakosha site alone. It's kind of an interesting duo that we make. We're kind of like brother and sister. For example, we both had to meet T together, because we didn't know what her energy was like. Now that we have met her - and LOVE her! - David offered to give her a massage.
I would like to offer some insight into Tantra, since you asked if there were anyone that we knew in (city). I am on several Tantra newsletter lists, so I am getting quite a bit of information about what is out there being offered. I have also done a lot of internet research to see who was doing what. And I have also had some first-hand experiences myself. But the most valuable information I have been getting on Tantra is from ascended masters. In particular, one who was a Tibetan Buddhist when he was embodied centuries ago, who has been giving me (as a spiritual student) information over and above what we can find in the big wide world of people. While David is putting his natural affinity for hands-on healing towards cultivating Tantric Massage, I am putting my natural affinity into writing about it because I am drawn to it as a fly to honey. I just KNOW the answers to the mystery of life are held hidden within Tantra. One day, I asked my guide, "Will you please explain to me about Tantra?" And before I could finish the question, I was interrupted. "DIVINE Tantra," were his words. And from that day on, I have been reporting what I am learning.
The energy that David uses is kundalini energy. Not sure if you've ever heard the word, perhaps you have. At any rate, it is the spirit of earth, invisible earth energy, and it comes up from the earth through the feet as we walk on the ground, and this spiritual energy from earth is destined to meet the sky energy that is descending. The sky energy of the individual that is the soul energy of the individual, which is descending down into the body. So we have earth energy rising up and spiritual energy coming down and they meet in the body - or they are supposed to - and they swirl around together and dance together and flow together in a figure eight flowing, back and forth - or they are supposed to - to bring balance and healing to the body, mind and feelings. The problem is people don't know this. We weren't educated about this. We didn't know that we were blocking the earth energy (the human energy) from rising up through us to meet our higher selves. And we didn't know that we were blocking our own soul, our own spiritual energy from descending down to be a part of our daily life because we were trained to block out natural feelings, intuitive feelings, emotionally cleansing feelings. We were damaged as children.
Sex is a significant block, perhaps the most important of all. So naturally earth energy is going to help dissolve that block, and someone who knows what they are doing can help with that. That is what tantric massage is all about. But someone who hasn't risen high enough to understand this, will not be much help. David knows. Kundalini resides, blocked, in the root chakra. This is where the spirit of earth energy accumulates. The earth energy is spiritual. Earth is a living breathing Being so her spirit is alive and vitally important to growing things on the surface. Mankind included. Earth energy is not sexual, it is spiritual and the sky energy descending is spiritual. Both ends of the spectrum are spiritual. But because we block it by covering it with shame, guilt and all sorts of other negative characteristics, this beautiful spiritual energy becomes distorted and repressed. It is prevented from connecting and joining with the higher self that is descending down from above the head in the clear air of sky. A big beautiful orb of light that is the individual's perfect and beautiful life energy. What David does in his sessions is unite earth energy and sky energy.
He can feel when he has hands on a person. He cannot explain what he is feeling because it is all feelings. It's a knowing. He is in the feeling and in the knowing. He is one with the person's feeling and he knows what's going on within the person. So there are no words. This is the most significant part of a tantric massage or a tantric lovemaking. The feelings let go and allow the union. Marcus is a channel for this. He allows it to flow through him. He can feel or rather know where there are blocks and he simply allows the energy to go there and melt the blocks. He is conscious of what is happening. He is not "thinking" it to happen. It's not coming through his brain cells. It's not an ego thing. His mind is still and non-moving and acting as a stillpoint opening for divine love to flow through like a mountain stream gently down a mountain to meet itself in the ocean. It is love meeting love.
Tantra sessions can be performed on the lowest level, and on medium levels, and on high levels that would appear miraculous, but they would all be somewhat distorted by the ego personality. The highest level is one who is selfless and has no ego during the session. One who channels. That is what David does. I think that is why he and I have been brought together to work together. He performs the therapy and I explain it - in my own words of course. I am simply reporting what I know, or have discovered. Consider me an investigative journalist seeking out the secrets of Tantra. These are my words, not his. So you can take it all with a grain of salt. I am not involved with the sessions at all.
Thank you K for writing to Anakosha. I am glad that T referred you. We are ALL growing and expanding in our journey of discovering who and what we are, and we are brought together with various people along the way who can assist us. I believe David is one such person. I just posted a page about him on the Anakosha website. He is known as David there. Just a precaution until the divine right timing to come out of the closet.
Blessings and light,