Welcome to Anakosha, a special kind of group soul evolving within the couples swinging lifestyle to include the softer approach - a lighter, gentler way to learn about and participate in swinging and beyond. Men have a feminine side too, so this is for the men as well, as well as for those women who have a masculine side. Our approach to sex is, lighter, more holistic, inclusive and loving so that it is comfortable and sweeter. We call it a lovestyle instead of a lifestyle, for obvious reasons. It is for couples in love or relationship who want to expand their intimate adventures beyond monogamy but don't know how or where to begin, or maybe they have already started and looking for friends.

Anakosha is evolving outward from the heart and from the base of swinging. It is a work in progress. There are two activities operating currently. Lifestyle Discussions on the first Saturday of the month, and houseparties for the over-50 crowd on the third Saturday, but there is more to come involving higher consciousness, sex and spiritual integration, love and heart coupling with solid physicality. Please continue looking through this site and feed back your suggestions via the contact page. Then click on the green to learn more:

                                              Lifestyle Discussions
                                              House Parties
                                              Massage Swap
                                              Tantra
                                             Yin Workshop
                                             
If you are in a monogamous relationship, would you like to belong to a local community of nice individuals who are exploring their sexuality? It is a complex path to walk but if done with the whole person in mind, with love and honest communication, it is not only workable - it is sheer fun and delight. Each person is unique, though, so we each have to trust our own heart and draw on our own wisdom stored there. This is a spiritual path that leads to walking on the ground as a master.

I come form 30 years in swinging coupled with a spiritual path which started with an out-of-body mystical experience which continued throughout the 30 years. I am on the ground today and still learning about myself. The life of a sexual-spiritual person is awesome! Keep on seeking for that integration. Many people are focused on the hot, fast, male-driven physical sex which is focused on below the belt, but expand that focus to include the wholeness of a person and you begin attracting to you those of like mind. It is the beginning of true relationships. There are many like you who want to know you.

As we equalize the "below-the-belt" approach to sex with the feminine "above-the-belt" approach we become whole. It is the merging of the male and female in us. The yin and yang entwined today in one body brings clarity. We then lose the influence of past hurts and traumas and feel the love flooding in. We lighten up and start to sparkle. We need other people on the same page to reflect back to us such holistic and healthy values. If you don't have a local group in your state, consider starting one. Contact me.

This website is written and kept up by a woman. It is female-friendly. Not against males but rather to equalize the playing field. If men want to make their women happy and thus themselves, they will take the time to listen to and watch what women say with their bodies, not what they say with their words. An affection, kind and loving approach is felt by a woman. She will respond more authentically. She will come out of her shell. Otherwise she will continue along the path she has always walked. Women have developed the art of manipulation to survive, because the world has been male-dominant for eons. But in an environment of love and freedom, over time she will feel safe and begin to trust. It takes time.

So, let's face it. Women need more time to get used to a sexually free playing field. It takes time to turn a woman on because she has to watch and see if this is really for real. Can she trust it or will she get slapped down? Does her husband/boyfriend really mean it? Or will he give her hell later?

Women need girlfriends. Genuine sisterhoods develop in a field of open sexuality. If you as a man have been staying up late at night searching the Internet all alone while she's sleeping, you're not going to get anywhere. You're not including her. Introduce her to Anakosha. Give her a helping hand up. Let her meet friendly people first before taking her to a swing party and expecting her to play. Take intelligent baby steps. And if SHE'S the hot and horny one more than you (some women are), if you can't keep up with her, then ask her if she would accompany YOU to an Anakosha event.

Talking about this titillating subject in group is a good first step. There is no obligation. Adopting a no-pressure attitude of respect and friendship puts a man in good stead with women. What knocks a man out of the box is putting your hands uninvited where they don't belong. For that reason alcohol and drugs are a no-no in Anakosha, although an occasional light drink is OK. Good behavior legitimizes us. It changes our perspective.  Instead of gross, pushy people, we find genuinely nice people. And sensitive women don't feel like they've been run over by a Mack truck. Open the door slowly to this new world. It's rich in freedom and love.

Anakosha has a long history in the field of swinging, and it has a subtle spiritual energy running through it. See About Us for the full story. For years Anakosha gave two-hour orientations, but decided it wasn't enough to prepare a couple for the big leap. More needs to be known about the nature of sex. The orgasm is only the tip of the iceberg. There's more below the surface. We play on the shores of an awesome energy, dipping a toe occasionally into the water to have sex but there is more. The love in us wants to expand. The aura and chakras start to glow and vibrate when we are sharing intimacies. But we so often shut it down just as it's getting good. Intimacy is a feminine word. It is the female who will lead us into deeper waters.
More on the nature of sex 

Anakosha has provided information on the swinging lifestyle since it was incorporated as a nonprofit in 1994. Prior to Anakosha we go back to 1980 with all-day seminars on swinging. It was converted to an LLC in 2011 with a major shift to a more heart-centered approach. The Yin Workshop was designed and ready to go but it never started. It was premature for the times. It's a future thing waiting.

The What we offer page with a list of products and services, including a book on swinging, lifestyle counseling and couples training in sensual massage. On the Articles page are writings embracing sex and swinging from a feminine perspective.  On the Membership page you can join Anakosha for $20 per person and gain access to password-protected material, including a members directory, newsletter, hygiene hints, party etiquette and more. On the  Polyamory page are thoughts on how singles fit into the lifestyle (lovestyle), and on a sub-page under that, the Village of Freedom explores a dream for the future.  And lastly, by signing our guestbook on the Contact page, you will receive periodic updates from us. Enjoy browsing and feel free to write.