Welcome to Anakosha, a special kind of group soul evolving within the couples swinging lifestyle to include the softer approach - a lighter, gentler way to learn about swinging. And remember, men have a feminine side too, so this is for the men as well. Anakosha is for couples in love or relationship who want to explore beyond monogamy but don't know where to begin.    

Would you, as a couple, like to belong to a local community of nice couples with whom you can let your hair down and explore sexual intimacy in a slower, more sincere way? Swinging has largely been focused on the hot, fast, male-driven physical sex (below the belt). The feminine approach includes above the belt, to lighten up, loosen up, drop the tunnel vision on sex and get to know the PEOPLE first. Anakosha provides a wider, more integrated atmosphere for the sake of womanhood and dignity. That doesn't mean we're forgetting about sex, simply expanding the parameters to include the whole body.

We do this in a private home through discussion, sharing stories, becoming vulnerable (heart-based), and planning events together.  It's not easy to find compatible other couples with whom to explore outside the box. Anakosha presents two ways by which a couple may dip their toes in the water. The first one is a clothes-on discussion and potluck, and the second is an all-day workshop with semi-nudity and massage but stops short of anything overt (for a reason). To learn more about each, click on the green links below.

                                Discussion & Potluck

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While this is a feminine-friendly approach, it is more for the men than the women because the women already know these things deep inside. Instinctively. Men don't. If men want to make their women happy, they will take the time listen to and watch what women say with their bodies. A feminine-friendly approach will invite women to be more vocal about what they want. If the environment feels safe enough, women will come out and be more playful. But they first have to overcome what they've been taught: to keep quiet, follow the rules and do what you're told.

So, let's face it. Women need more time to get used to the idea that they can be sexually free to play. It takes time to turn a woman on because she has to watch and see if this is really for real. Can she trust it or will she get slapped down? Does her husband/boyfriend really mean it? Or will he give her hell later?

Women need girlfriends. Sisterhoods develop in the lifestyle. If you as a man have been staying up late at night searching the Internet all alone while she's sleeping, you're not going to get anywhere. You're not including her. Introduce her to Anakosha. Give her a helping hand up. Let her meet friendly people first before taking her to a swing party and expecting her to play. Take intelligent baby steps. And if SHE'S the hot and horny one more than you (some women are), if you can't keep up with her, then ask her if she would accompany YOU to an Anakosha event.

Talking about this titillating subject in group is a good first step. There is no obligation. Adopting a no-pressure attitude of respect and friendship puts a man in good stead with women. What knocks you out of the box is putting your hands uninvited where they don't belong. For that reason alcohol and drugs are a no-no in Anakosha, although an occasional light drink is OK. Good behavior legitimizes us. It changes our perspective.  Instead of gross, pushy people, we find genuinely nice people. And sensitive women don't feel like they've been run over by a Mack truck. Open the door slowly to this new world. It's rich in freedom and love.

Anakosha has a long history in the field of swinging, and it has a subtle spiritual energy running through it. See About Us for the full story. For years Anakosha gave two-hour orientations, but decided it wasn't enough to prepare a couple for the big leap. More needs to be known about the nature of sex. The orgasm is only the tip of the iceberg. There's more below the surface. We play on the shores of an awesome energy, dipping a toe occasionally into the water to have sex but there is more. The love in us wants to expand. The aura and chakras start to glow and vibrate when we are sharing intimacies. But we so often shut it down just as it's getting good. Intimacy is a feminine word. It is the female who will lead us into deeper waters.
More on the nature of sex 

Anakosha has provided information on the swinging lifestyle (lovestyle) since it was incorporated as a nonprofit in 1994. It was converted to an LLC in 2011 when it was upgraded. This website has 9 main pages. In addition to the Yin Workshop and the Discussion pages, you will find the What we offer page with a list of products and services, including a book on swinging, lifestyle counseling and couples training in sensual massage. On the Articles page are writings embracing sex and swinging from a feminine perspective.

On the Membership page you can join Anakosha for $20 per person and gain access to password-protected material, including a members directory, newsletter, hygiene hints, party etiquette and more. On the  Polyamory page are thoughts on how singles fit into the lifestyle (lovestyle), and on a sub-page under that, the Village of Freedom explores a dream for the future.  And lastly, by signing our guestbook on the Contact page, you will receive periodic updates from us. Enjoy browsing and feel free to write.

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