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The Love Club changes its name 1/14/18

January's massage party was stirring. It stirred up some realizations. The hosts and I met the following Wednesday. They gave me a four-handed massage and then after we cuddled (with clothes on) and shared our thoughts and feelings freely, afterwards. I wish all massage parties could be this way. It is liberating to speak freely after a massage. We all agreed that the word "Love" in Love Club is being misinterpreted by people in different ways. Some interpret it to mean sexual love, and some interpret the word "swapping" to mean sexual swapping as in swinging. So we are removing both words, Love and Swapping from our descriptions. We agreed that these words are a misrepresentation of what we are doing here. So the name change is from "Love Club" to "Massage Club", which was its original name anyway, before I got carried away into the esoteric.  And the massage club hosts massage parties.

By removing "swapping" from the description doesn't mean a couple can't exchange massage partners by mutual consent. We simply want to remove the focus on what appears to be a rule. A couple doesn't have to swap, a couple may stay together and exchange massages between each other. The massage parties are first of all for committed couples to grow more loving together. Massage is a love technique. It helps your loved one experience a warm and wonderful feeling from your own loving hands. One woman said privately to me that she required a happy ending whenever she gets a massage. But that isn't going to happen here at the massage club because it would change the atmosphere. It would excite other men and intimidate other women. An orgasm at the end of a massage should be done in private, and therefore not here in a group.

The massage club is for massage, not a happy orgasmic ending. And now I am going to go into the deeper aspects of massage. The goal is to prolong the love sensation, where the bliss energy deepens and spreads throughout the body, releasing stress and blockages so feelings of love can waft all over. By bringing it to a head at climax, it's finished. It ends. It's over. We are here to learn, through the massage technique, to prolong these wonderful sensations. They are visceral, gut level and deeper. The massage club's focus is to practice this and extend it so that it is not ended prematurely, before the person is zoned out, which is what an orgasm does but faster, in a BANG sort of way, before the body has gone limp in ecstasy in the natural way. 

It‘s not the intention of a massage party to teach physical sexual techniques. We are here to practice non-physical techniques through the vehicle of massage. It's a way of coming closer to your partner. It's a love technique, not a physical technique. Sex is physical. Love is non-physical. Love is the power that comes from beyond us. It's bigger than us and we limit it by keeping it focused on the physical. Love is like the electricity coming into our homes. We don't understand it but we can learn how to use it. We tap it and learn what it can do. So it is with love. We can tap into love and use it in a better way if we learn how.

So the massage club is NOT for sex and not for happy endings for a very practical reason. If the reader has his or her heart set on an orgasmic result, otherwise known as a happy ending, they should modify their expectation because it's not going to happen here. At least not at this time. We are keeping our focus on massage. Through massage we distribute what is actually the orgasmic energy all through the body instead of focusing it to a head and a climax. By distributing the orgasmic energy all through the body, we are scientifically opening the etheric meridians that have been long closed. These etheric meridians are not very well known to us westerners. Through the meridians our spirit or our consciousness flows down into our muscles and tissues. We are designed that way. They are in us for that purpose. But we keep them closed. That's why people feel so good when they are stressed out and they go get a massage. The meridians are opened up again. That is the intention. They feel good because they are flowing again with the love that is coming down from their higher self.

I'll tell you a cute story as an aside. I have given workshops from time to time over the years, and one day at a workshop, a man actually got it - what I was trying to get across. I saw his face light up in recognition, and then he closed it down again and said, "Oh, but you must be careful not to mix healing with sex." We were talking about how massage heals and is sensual at the same time and how the orgasm fits in.

What we're doing here in massage is, instead of focusing on the genitals and rubbing until the feeling explodes in climax, which means it's now all over, we continue massaging to prolong the good feelings. They are extended deeper and further and distributed all through the body and into every nook and cranny, cell, muscle and cartilage in the body. Some people long for this prolonged ecstasy feeling (women), while others don't understand because they've never felt it before (men).  Men are not designed to internalize inner feelings like women are. And yet we live together. We are opposites. This causes a separation between the two of us who live together. This is the reason why the massage club is materializing. It is her to help integrate the two opposite approaches to love. Through massage we will prolong, deepen and expand the good feelings, which are actually orgasmic feelings in a mild and blissful way as compared to the explosive Bang. 

It's healthy, it's healing, it's sensual, it nourishes the muscles and tissues like an orgasm does, but in a natural smooth easy way instead of in a large POW! way. It is wonderfully fulfilling to drink softly, vulnerably, sweetly, as a parched and dying man on the desert would drink a cold clear glass of water given to him, and savor every drop as it seeped lower and lower into his belly. This type of prolonged lovemaking clears energy blocks in a quiet and natural way, instead of in a loud noise way. Men are the ones who need this the most. Don't think of this as being for the women. It is actually for the men to experience it, to feel it, to understand it. Women have known it all their lives.

So, that is what we are doing in this massage. We are distributing feelings of love and bliss all through the body, both men and women, through the etheric meridians. When everyone has learned this technique, or have sufficiently experienced it so it is understood, then a more private massage party can be planned with a happy-ending gathering for  partners. We are not going to turn this into a swing party, because couples first need to be on the same page when it comes to lovemaking. But couples can learn in a group of other couples through discussion and sharing knowledge and wisdom. Knowing about the etheric meridians is the secret knowledge of the tantras.

This energy can’t be distributed through the body if we don't know about it. If all focus is on the physical, and all effort is focused on the physical, the meridians remain closed. The deeper feelings are not realized because the conduits are still closed. We can't avoid saying these things. Denial does not help us. Sex is real. Sex is practical. Sex is natural. The way it has been done will continue. But we can expand our knowledge and we can enhance these beautiful feelings by opening the etheric meridians and include the whole body so it is flowing with the current of life. The massage club is being brought into being for purposes of preparing for deeper, better, more wholesome, beautiful love. Preparing requires taking time to learn. To study. To listen. To share. To expand.  And to consider the needs of other people. It is training in how to not be selfish. We are changing the "me" to "we". It's a reaching out. A sharing of a wealth of information. Everyone has a piece of the puzzle locked up inside them. It's been hiding in there. Show yourself and tell yourself. Speak yourself. Be yourself.

It's OK to be selfish once in a while during lovemaking, but we are also learning how to merge our sensations of bliss with another and at the same time. It's called mutual fulfillment. Selfish sex takes care of one or the other but not both at the same time. Selfish sex has always been there and always will be, as long as there are men and women. So we don't have to worry that sex as we know it will disappear. But we can learn more. Each person's fulfillment is important, not just "mine". What we are presenting here is a sharing concept above and beyond what we're accustomed to. We are learning it through simple massage.

Massage is deceptive. There is more to it than is currently known. We are learning how orgasmic bliss feelings flow and melt blockages of old, old fixed habit patterns so clear fresh new insight flows. We've not been taught about meridians before. The etheric meridians is where the chakras are located. We've all heard about chakras but have we experienced them opening?

We can only learn about them through feeling them. Massage is one of the best ways to feel chakras open. It is not necessary to understand with your mind. It is all about experiencing it. How does it feel when you massage someone? When you receive from someone? It is all about YOU and what you are feeling. Identifying it by talking about it afterwards is part of the learning process. Share your stories with others. I have learned so much from listening to other people. I continue to learn. It reduces the "me" to which I have identified all my life, and expands my perception to "we". I am not alone. I am part of a larger whole. The body that you are living in is sacred but have you experienced feeling sacred?  We can’t experience feeling sacred - which is love - until we open the meridians. 

The Anakosha Massage Club is strictly social, not sexual. Social nudity and social massage is what we do here. A loving massage cultivates and activates love because it opens more refined levels that haven't been opened before in most people. Perhaps you have felt it on occasion. This is a love technique that very few know about. Rubbing the erotic physical parts on the body harder doesn’t open the etheric channels, it closes them. One fast orgasmic explosion opens the meridians rapidly, then closes back down again. Massage teaches the body to remain relaxed and open to allow the meridians to stay open and relaxed. The access is done through trust and trusting the one who is touching you. It is important that we expand the feelings of trust, not abort them by changing partners. Stay in trust so the body can relax and become soft, flexible and vulnerable. This deepens our love ability.

I studied spiritual law with the Masters for 40 years, and all during that time I was having sex with men and women and hosting swing parties. I blended sex and spiritual love together and brought them into harmony. I did this internally, for myself alone. It is time to bring forth a massage club so others can enhance their blending and bonding of opposites in their life. It's all about unity, unifying, integrating, sharing through togetherness. Alone at home we have no one to discuss these things with, if we are opposite sides of the fence. These are taboo subjects to one or the other. Let's join together and experience the blending of opposites together, through massage. It has to be felt. Rubbing genitals alone doesn’t do it, and spiritual love alone doesn’t do it. Love is a joining together of opposites.

To attend the  Feburary 3rd massage party, contact me by return reply. If you want to be removed from these mailings, ask by reply email. I maintain the Anakosha website through which this is being promoted. All communication comes to me. Check Diana's Blog on the website for updates. I am Diana.

(Not sent as newsletter but blogged 12/5/17)

Yes, we DID have the second Love Club Massage Swap for couples only, last Saturday, December 2. There were three couples, all of whom had met before. And this time it was more intimate than the first time. We were more in tune with each other, and therefore more relaxed. There was more stories shared than the first time. We had once more three massage tables in the beautiful living room overlooking the golf course. The women laid on the tables first and the men massaged them, switching partners when we turned over, back to front. Then we broke for snacks and conversation, then an hour later the men were on the tables and the women massaged them, again switching partners when it was time to turn over. The event went according to the vision or the plan, in that the togetherness - all in the same room - provided a group comfort zone but yet the individual one-on-one massaging provided that personal connection that is SO needed.

It is hard to define the essence of what it is we are striving for. As I wrote to someone yesterday (a woman who is helping me publish the book Swing With Safety) - "The massage swapping is a new experience in that it's a half-way feeling between sterile therapeutic massage and swingers sensual or sexual massage. It's tricky to explain but I'm doing a lot of philosophical writing about it, the approach, and leaning heavily on my experience in swinging. Like, swing parties of 10 or 20 couples don't provide the right energy for personal intimate connections. It's too rushed. That's the scene I have been involved with most of my adult life. That's why a lot of couples stick with only one or two couples they know. You can spend a whole evening, night or day with them , even two days, and not feel rushed. But then, there's the other side of it - you might fall in love and cause relationship problems. That's when having a group of others around to enjoy and spend time with helps to curb that natural tendency to fall in love, or fall into attachment. Swingers pride themselves for not attaching, but that also bars them from enjoying intimacy. I'm seeking the half-way point in this massage swapping. So far, the people are responding nicely to it."

We are expecting 7 couples for the January 6 couples massage swap. How to sign up - contact me through the Contact page. I am Diana and I answer all emails.

The Love Club Newsletter 11/12/17

Heart-centered massage swaps with heart-centered people
 
This is the first official newsletter of the Love Club. I am Diana of Anakosha reporting on the first event held last Saturday, November 4, 2017.  I will be promoting the Love Club more as time goes on. The concept of exchanging loving, nurturing massage in small groups has been brewing for at least 20 years. Healing with love energy is well known throughout the world in various cultures and religions, but it is often diverted into sex. Wonderful uplifting feelings and healings result from massage without sex. The reason is sexual activity draws the energy to the genital region and concentrates it there, which prevents the love energy from expanding and flowing through the entire body.
 
Massage is an excellent healing medium when love is allowed to flow. The idea of swapping massage in small groups is to allow this to take place in a safe environment, and to make this comforting agenda more available at no cost other than a $10 donation to help with lotions, etc. Also, it allows people to share in the giving. Giving is as much a benefit if not more, than receiving. When you put your hands on someone to massage them, and you wait a moment and just feel the energy move, this starts the flow from the universe. The more you give, the more you receive. When I give a massage to someone through a loving hands-on massage, I myself am fulfilled when the body I am working on is filled to overflowing with good feelings. This is a common experience for massage therapists. That is why the Love Club massages are for healing, not for arousal. We want to share this approach with laymen and laywomen so you can give massages to each other and to friends.
 
Our first Love Club event was held in a lovely home in Naples. There were four couples, plus me. We gathered at 4 pm and the last couple left at 9:30, later than we planned. Age-wise, there was no one under 40. Most of us were 50 and over but from that point I have no idea what the ages are and don't care. We were all mature people who were not under the pressure of racing hormones.
 
We began by sitting around in a circle with me introducing myself and moderating introductions. Discussions naturally flowed and we began speaking about massage. Massage experience of those in attendance was varied. In the instructions I said we would be doing one-on-one massaging by swapping partners. However, that changed as sometimes things do, and  we ended up with three massage tables  instead of four. With nine people - eight couples plus myself - we figured that would work quite nicely with three to a table, only the men rebelled. They didn't want to massage other men. So, mmmm. We discussed it with no solution so I took the women out to the lanai to talk girl talk, which is easily done when there are no men around.

This provided a breakthrough. It didn't take long. It is always amazing to me how well women can work together when allowed to. Let the women run the show and all will be well. It was decided to put the three men on the table and let the one man who wanted to sit out, sit it out for now (wanted to pace himself due to a bad back). And then all the women - five of us - started massaging the men. We lingered for a while over one man, then we moved to another man when we felt to, never leaving a man alone on a table. The women worked well together, signaling silent messages when it was time to change partners. We never got bored. To me, there was a sense of feminine energy sparkling freely and dancing around the room.

When everyone was complete, we drifted out for snacks and conversation. Later, we drifted back into the massage room and three women laid down on the three tables, two women sat out and the fourth man continued to sit out. By this time, there was a free flow happening - the kind of energy one would hope for in a well-organized group except this wasn't organized. It became spontaneous. The women were following their instincts, each one knowing instinctively what to do for the good of the whole. I was impressed.
 
The one woman sitting out until last was at last called in, and she received a wonderfully complete massage. And I, the other woman sitting it out, joined a gal who was working on the one man who had been sitting out. He had a bad back and wanted to space his time at the table giving, with his time on the table receiving, because his body scrunches up and contracts when he works his muscles. He needed to be last on the table or he wouldn't be able to walk to the car. He knows his body pretty well.
 
As I worked on the man with the bad back, I was able to get MY energies moving. I could feel the puffs of radiance flowing through my hands. As I laid my hands on him and made the connection with his energy,  noticing the twisted muscles of his back, I looked around the room and felt a lump in my throat. There was something soft in the air. The bonding was happening. The mood music was playing gently as the men focused on the women, massaging them with care.

It was growing dark by now and a low light came on in the living room. The tinted glass wall allowed us to see out onto the golf course while nobody could see in. The river flowed by and the pool on the lanai lit up with a beautiful blue light. Several women had gone to the showers and were on their way to the hot tub. I continued with the man on the table until done, and then we lingered and talked with the lady on the next table who made no move to get up, smiling from ear to ear and glowing. The feeling was easy and connective. One by one we left the tables and went to shower off the oil and headed to the hot tub which was around 97 or 98, body temperature.
 
It was a lovely clear night. The golf course was now dark and empty. As we sat in the hot tub with a blue light reflecting off the watery walls, we noticed the full moon rising above the screened enclosure. We talked and shared thoughts and awareness as the warm water finished the job the massage had started. Then one by one we left and went home thanking our lovely, friendly hosts.
 
The Love Club concept is for couples for now. Two singles may attend if they do the work of finding each other. We are focusing on couples for now (or pairs of two singles) because we need gender balance. We can pair up a woman who is either single or whose partner is not interested, with a man who is single or whose partner is not interested, but we are not in a position to be match-makers. At least not at this point in time. If you as a couple have an interest in attending, then write to me and introduce yourselves as a couple, both man and woman. Since I am the one responsible for the invitations, it is important to know who you are. Contact me by return email.

A donation of $20 per couple helps with the minor costs that accrue. You can donate upon arrival. No dues are required. There is no formal membership. Attendance puts you on the membership roster, which I keep personally.

The first event proved it can work wonderfully. It is all about shedding the street persona and allowing the heart-centered focus to be present, which is the loving side of a person. It is a wonderful feeling to be part of a group of others who are on the same page. The next Love Club event will be held on Saturday, December 2, 2017 at 4 pm, and the following one on January 6. Future dates are shown below. 

Just a reminder - love is theory from an intellectual perspective, but the body actually FEELS love. It is a sensation that is warming and comforting. The brain is not designed to feel. The brain's function is abstract thought. Since we are 99% a mental culture dwelling mostly in our heads, massage sharing teaches us to feel love. We lower our focus to our body when hands are put on us in a selfless, giving way.  While the genitals are the most intense feeling organs in the body, and the head is the least feeling organ, the heart is the middle zone. It is positioned half way between head and groin. It is the balancer between abstract thought and feeling. The massage assists us in lowering our attention down to the heart level, but not all the way down to the genital level. At the heart level there is a portal to the divine in us. Here we are consciously balanced. We can shift attention either way, by choice, or we can simply relax and enjoy the sensations of loving hands connecting with our skin. Mmmmm!  Let go and drift, knowing there is nothing expected of you. You are being given a gift. Relax and follow the feelings. 

Love and hugs,
Diana


The Love Club Newsletter 10/23/17 

As we consider massage in a loving way, intimacy naturally comes to mind. Intimacy has always been reserved for the primary partner, the one you live with. Primary partnerships are considered exclusive. How many couples retain the ability to be truly intimate with each other?  Beyond discussing gossip or problems with family, neighbors and politics? Intimacy is an inner term. It means connecting with subtle forces within oneself and then, secondly, sharing those feelings with someone else. But the first part of intimacy is allowing feelings to take place. It is a deeper art that we as a culture have not mastered. To allow our feelings to exist and not condemn them or reject them. We have been trained to shut them off. Superficial sex is one way of avoiding intimacy and the feeling of feelings.
 
This is what we will be practicing at the Love Club. It requires a slowing down process, both mentally and physically, so that the third component - feelings - can be felt.  There are three aspects to us: mind, body and feelings. The goal is to  integrate them so these three mind-body-feelings function in harmony.

If, during the massage, you are feeling something and your partner is not, the feelings are not being shared. They are being kept to yourself, alone, hidden. Only you are feeling it. When you are uncomfortable with these feelings, you find ways to distract yourself, usually moving on to another subject or doing something physical to break those feelings off. This is how we reject our feelings. Sharing intimacy means to allow those feelings to exist, and to continue to flow with someone. This is sharing intimacy. It is what connection is. Many people have lost this ability to connect and to share feelings. Intimacy is not some holy act that is virtuous and must be kept hidden away for some future sacred moment. Intimacy is light and easy. It is flowing with someone. That's all it is. And it simply means letting yourself feel what is going on inside of you instead of hiding them. There is more to come. This is just the tip of iceburg as I am relating it here.
 
Sharing feelings with someone other than your primary partner has always been considered a sacrilege. It is taboo. It is cheating. This concept has been pounded into us by tradition. It is a way of keeping us from falling in love - inappropriately, it is said - but it's really a way of keeping us from love. It is a way of keeping us away from what makes us happy. So we were slapped down as children whenever we did something happy and free, which has served to remind us today, as adults, to keep our feelings hidden. It's time to break the rules. Getting caught masturbating alone in private causes feelings of shame, and yet these are your OWN feelings. The shame is a way of keeping you from enjoying yourself, of feeling free. There is so much more to this than meets the eye. We have been kept, by tradition and rules, from feeling the splendor of our own feelings.
 
Authority figures from time immemorial have issued laws to keep us away from these inner forces called feelings. This practice of massaging strangers who will become friends if you continue with the Love Club, provides a safe place to practice breaking the rules in an ethical and highly moral way. It is simple, fun and light-hearted because we are social animals and we need each other to have fun. Through social interaction we can practice feeling and sharing stories again, without reserve. Sharing stories and sharing Intimacy is one and the same thing. It is a natural state for we humans to be together and explore together and grow together. The authorities have made it unnatural and perverted.
 
We will be sharing feelings with a stranger simply through massage without turning it sexual. The reason we are not turning it sexual is so you can feel the feelings and stay in the feelings. Once you change the act into a physical act, you are no longer staying in the feelings but pursuing something that you don't have yet and you want it. This is not a put-down of the joys of sex, but a lesson in intimacy that will further expand the joy of sex.
 
The reason why we are here to swap massages one on one, alone, not with your own partner but with someone else of opposite gender, is to enable you to remain at your peak experience. You will not fall into the normal habit patterns that you have at home. You will have different feelings because you will be touching new vibrations from a new person. This will help you to activate feelings you don't normally activate at home. We are habitual creatures, all of us. We do the same things day in and day out. We all want stimulation, which is why people cheat and go outside their marriage, which causes feelings of guilt. We don't want feelings of guilt or betrayal. There is a better way to be stimulated. We haven't explored this yet, as a culture. It's time. How to be stimulated, feel joy and freedom, be creative and blossom where we're planted, without cheating?
 
Being bored and restless is caused by recycling the same feelings. Our OWN same feelings, over and over. It's habitual. The concept of the Love Club is to get people to interact with different people through massage.  You  will activate new and different feelings. You will not turn them sexual, which you might possibly do if you were alone with that person but, because that is not the purpose of the Love Club, we don't go there.
 
You will have all sorts of feelings when you massage a stranger. You might have repugnant feelings caused by an associated memory - but it will be YOUR memory surfacing - not coming from the person. Or you might have feelings of guilt because you are having some turn-on feelings - but you will not act on them. Just enjoy them. Or you might have feelings of shame from a long-repressed childhood memory. You might have confused feelings because you feel the turn-on feelings but you don't know what to do with them since you're not allowed to do anything with this person. This is intimacy. You are feeling intimate feelings within yourself. All feelings are intimate. We let them flow forth and on and on through us. Let them expand until they reach your conscious mind, where you can make a conscious decision that it's OK, I am receiving this and it's OK. That way, we don't repress the feeling as we did before. We allow it. Even the so-called negative feelings. Welcome the negative feeling. It is yours. It will not remain negative for long, once you accept them. They will be absorbed into wonderful feelings again so you can continue receiving feelings. Let them exist. Don't act on them.
 
Most people will not be able to do this at first. Most of us, including me, have built strong sturdy walls around our feelings. That is why we have chosen massage as a way to stimulate feelings within us. And don't kid yourself - feelings ARE powerful. They are forces that need to be dealt with and mastered. Right now, we are confused over this sex, love and intimacy thing. We need more practice, and with others besides our at-home lover. We don't easily activate new feelings at home, either alone or with our partner. Not because we don't love them but because we become habitualized. We do the same thing with them over and over. Activating new feelings sometimes requires outside different energies. It's going to turn your life around into more fun and more stimulation. 

Thank you DK. And thank you P & J for offering the use of your beautiful home for this, our first Love Club meeting. Everything is supplied - tables, sheets, lotion and some light snacks and soft drinks. The $20 donation (per couple) will help defray costs. Give it to me upon arrival, not to P & J who don't want it and will refuse it. You will find them to be very friendly hosts who go out of their way to make sure you are comfortable. Future dates are posted below and also on the Anakosha website.
 
Let me know by return email if you want to participate, but talk to your partner to make sure he or she wants to engage in this manner. Directions to P & J's will come once confirmed. I am taking reservations, both firm or tentative, for future meetings too. I would also like to hear your comments and feedback. This is something unique and new that we are trying. I'm not sure anybody else is doing it quite this way anywhere in the world. Everyone is important. Each person there influences the meaning of the whole. It's definitely a way to meet other couples, if nothing else. Let me know if you want to participate - as a couple please!
 
Love and hugs,
Diana of Anakosha


The Love Club Newsletter 9/7/17

Hello everyone!  You are invited to attend our very first massage swap for loving couples. It is going to take place in my home out on rural pastureland in North Collier County, Naples. Imagine, if you will, arriving at the door and being hugged through the front door by me and my partner David. We will have four massage tables set up in various rooms in the house, completely equipped with sheets, towels and lotion. We are friendly and love to host small gatherings. My husband who is not interested in massage will also be here in the background as protector. This gathering will be no more than 8 couples. A total of 16 people. It starts at 4 pm and goes until at least 8 pm but it may last longer. There will be light snacks and drinks to tide over the hunger pangs.
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The first thing we'll do is give you time to mill around and meet the others who are here, and also have a tour of the house to locate the bathrooms and where to put your things. If you are the first couple here, then you can help us greet the next couple who arrives and give them a tour of the house. We do not know yet how many will be here, because this is only the first one and sometimes people wait to see how the first one goes before attending. And, yes, there will be more to come. They are scheduled for the first of every month on into the future. The schedule of dates is posted at the bottom. Mark your calendar if interested.   .
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The second thing we'll do is have a sit down introduction circle. We feel it is important to get to know everyone face-to-face and put a feeling to each face. Emotional feelings are what helps us to "read" someone. We read people better through our feelings and emotional responses than we do through eye and ear.
The third thing we'll do is have a discussion and demonstration about massage. David will demonstrate on someone on a massage table. This type of massage is loving and it feels sensual and is very, very nurturing and healing, but it is not sexual. We will not go in that direction so everyone can relax. I have to say this because some will want to go there, causing stress and anticipation, and others will NOT want to go there, causing stress and anticipation. That is why we keep it safely non-sexual. David is our in-house massage therapist. He is trained in all methods of massage and channels heavenly divine love.
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The fourth thing we'll do is choose partners for the massage. Massage swaps are one-on-one. Two people to a table. You give to someone and you receive from that same person. You will be asked to choose a partner other than your own mate. It is important that you are OK with this so discuss it first before accepting. If you really need to stay together for the massage, you might as well stay home. By sharing massage with a stranger you'll step outside your comfort zone and enlarge your ability to interact intimately with others. This is a test. It is the price of admission to join the Love Club. There will be some flexibility in choosing massage partners. We will do everything we can to make sure everyone is comfortable and no one is pressured, but this is the whole point of the Love Club - stretching your boundaries and diminishing fear of intimate touch. Since there will only be four massage tables operating (we're limited by space) half of the group will massage while the other half will be in discussion. Then they'll swap places. I'll ask for questions ahead of time. They can be anonymous. No one will know it was you who asked it. You'll have a chance to ask any question you like, including very personal questions which are awkward to ask. We are equipped to handle it all.
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Please reply directly to me by return email with questions or to register to attend on October 7. Each couple are potential friends and I'll treat them that way. We have single friends who would love to attend but at the moment we need to limit it to couples to assure gender balance. We can pair two singles together on a first-come number basis. Just let me know if you want to come without a partner. I'll keep track. I am personally hosting and monitoring the list of people. We will ask $20 pp to help with costs, pay on arrival. Free to a couple who can arrive early and stay late to help me. There is a certain amount of work to be done beforehand and after.
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I look forward to hearing back from you. We'd love to have you join David and me on October 7.
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Namaste,
Diana
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Newsletter 8/14/17 - Massage Club changed to The Love Club 

Laying the ground work - an invitation

We invite anyone interested to come over and join David & me at my house this Wednesday afternoon from 1 to 4 pm to explore the idea of the new Love Club. We are at the point where we need feedback to expand on it.  We've been discussing for over two years now. I've sent out a number of newsletters about a massage club, but our focus has broadened. It still involves massage but it is more. The focus is on love and flowing love to and from others. How to share love. What is love? This inevitably led us to Tantra. Tantra is based on the science of love - divine love, not personal love - but since this is an unfamiliar concept to most of us, it is an open door inviting us to come closer and explore.

David is already offering Tantric Massage. He is featured on the Anakosha website at this link. As for me, I am am studying the roots of Tantra, tracing it back to its hidden and unknown beginning. I am amazed at what I am finding. Both David and I want to begin building a group of friends who are interested in exploring this with us. He and I get together on Wednesday afternoons, as permitted, and we are now issuing this invitation for anyone to join us who lives nearby, who share this interest with us. Just to chat. Informal, laid back, spontaneous. We don't have an agenda. Meet us not leaders but as friends. We want to meet you. You are an immortal divine spark and you are beautiful and there is love residing within you. We would be most happy to have you, or both of you if you are both interested, join us. We meet every Wednesday. Contact me by return email to introduce yourself.

You are getting this because you wrote to Anakosha at one time. If you want to be removed from this e-list, let me know. It is a private list and I monitor it myself. If you have been following the Anakosha website and my blogs you know the general idea. The Love Club is written up here. Some of you know David and me by our real names. You may have been massaged by us, but if you are a snow bird and still up north we look forward to seeing you in the fall. Meanwhile, we don't want to wait. David and I are ready to proceed and start building a base of loving friends for the Love Club.

Namaste,
Diana of Anakosha
www.anakosha.org



The Massage Club Newsletter 5/14/17

Happy Mothers Day to all the mothers and would-be mothers who read this. There is a happy upward movement of love going out and around the world today from offspring to Moms everywhere. A Mother's love is a special kind of love. It is feminine. It nurtures where things are not right and it helps to mend them.
 
Speaking of feminine, this week David and I will meet with a woman without her husband with the intention of inviting her into the  massage swap group for loving couples. Apparently he is not ready, bless his soul. We love the men - our men - but many of them simply are not ready to receive nourishing, loving massage. It is perhaps the objectivity and physicality that men have worked with all their life which cannot understand what this that we do is all about. What is the purpose? How does it fit it into MY life? Why should I do it? Why should I trust it?
 
This that David and I are offering is educational. It's a demonstration in how to relax and receive. I guess that is difficult for men to do but we are hoping. We invite the men to participate with us to LEARN about it. Accompany their wives and find out more about it. Learn what it is like to receive love in a different way other than sensual or sexual. How to relax and be soothed by people who care without wanting anything back. How to be appreciated in a kindly fashion. The biological chemistry that men work on, I suspect, not being masculine, is having to be on guard and watching out for the dangers in life. They are the protectors of their women and children. It has been the cultural programming of men of our species for a long time. And under those conditions, yes, I can see where it is difficult to drop one's guard and to suddenly trust. That is the woman’s role, to trust and intuit and feel kindly towards others.
 
It is a difficult thing to do for men. That is why David and I invite couples to come in to meet us first, just to talk and share information. We don’t want to push massage on anyone, but that is our method of working with people and we do not charge money for it. It is free.

As I am beginning to understand it, men by and large have been so busy serving in the man's' role, that he cannot simply drop that role and open himself to receiving the support and nurturing from others.  That is what we have decided to offer this to the women even if their men do not want to, or are not ready to accompany them. It is the women who are the leaders of the new age dawning upon us, the age of enlightenment or lighting up on the INSIDE.  Light and love are synonymous, so when we light up the INSIDE, we are awakening the love inside. Women will be leading the way in the coming days.

Women have talents that men don't have. They just don’t have confidence in those talents. They have not been supported in those talents. They have been put down. Women have the softness that is inherent in human kind, and they are safeguarding that softness until it is time to bring it forth. David and I are offering to assist in bringing it forth. We love our men and we want to bring forth the softness in them. And the intuition and the feelings of being loved and cared for in our men. We have not been able to demonstrate that in the past ages because of the violence of our planet and cities.
 
Women have the inner connections that will help prepare the men to receive this finer activity of life, after they themselves have received the spiritual support and spiritual confidence that they are right and they have been all along. Now is the time for women to stop allowing themselves to be dismissed, and to be stronger and more daring and courageous in standing up for that softness that they represent in their inner hearts but have not dared express in their outer world.
 
It is a subtle but conscious act to press the will of love, kindness and nourishment outward onto life, after centuries of having been intimidated. Women are designed for this but have been forced to fold their wings because practical matters take precedence in a mentally-driven world. The divine feminine‘s purpose is to correct the mean and ugly and nourish the good and noble. Slow hands stroking with a warm heart is good for a person because there is a weaving together of both or all parties’ energies. It is used, not for foreplay, but for cellular healing, soul healing, which sensitizes a person to receive better, bigger, more and wiser. Slow massage is not foreplay for sex. Working the genitals is foreplay for sex. Slow massage with a warm heart all over the body is different. It prepares a person to receive love, to feel love, and to flow love back. This is the universal love. Love with a capital L. There is a “heart-of-God” feeling to it on a cosmic scale.
 
David and I work on the vibration of love. Love is not personal. Love is a universal principal. Is a spiritual intelligence. Most people think of love as something reserved for mates, lovers, families and very special friends, but it is actually the glue that holds everything together - galaxies and suns and planets and moons and the entire nature kingdom and allows civilizations to continue. And it holds people together, their relationships, communities and families, and neighbors and co-workers. When something is falling apart in life, think love. Shift the focus to love and picture love all around that part of life that is not working. Put some time into imagining Love.

Love has to be consciously applied and thought of. It's an effort to figure out what is the right vibration of love, how it feels, where to focus, what to do to bring it about. But finding the right feeling, texture or vibration of love is a worthwhile effort. When you hit on it you know. It’s transformational. It's a soothing, peaceful, mending vibration. The thing that is broken may not get fixed instantaneously, like magic, but YOU will be. And when YOU are soothed, mended and healed with the Love vibration, then your world begins to change. It will rearrange itself to conform to YOU. As David says, “After you have received this universal Love with a capital L, you will never be the same again.“  David channels more universal Love with a capital L than anyone else I know.
 
Warmly,
Diana of Anakosha


                                             
The Massage Club Newsletter 5/8/17

David and I met last Thursday on the mat in my sacred room with lovely quiet music playing and windows open to the breezes outdoors. It was a beautiful day and in my special room, which has seen a lot of action over the years, both group room action and spiritual silence with no movement, we cuddled warmly and told each other what was going on in our lives. What we were learning. What we were experiencing. What we were feeling. We have a sacred relationship.

And then we laid on our backs and in silence looked up past the ceiling where stars are glued - the kind that light up after the lights go out at night - watched our each our own visions unfold. Inner dreams that are unique to the soul. Then we talked. We had a lot to share. It was slow-down time with lengths of pause between us. And then we stopped talking all together and went into the timeless zone beyond movement. No, it wasn't sexual. It was Love. Ours is a sacred relationship that does not require sex.

The reason I describe our meeting is to let everyone know there is more to this than sexuality. The men are continuing to write to me asking about the sensual side of massage. They are interested in what women want, and how they can meet the requirements that women won't tell them. I responded to a man today in this vein. I posted my response (not his words, only mine) HERE. My mission - and David's mission - is to introduce the greater love, to remind everyone that there IS a greater love, a greater feeling of oneness, bliss, togetherness, rapture,  and how to access it. Sex is irrelevant if you don't have love. It isn't accessed through the genitals. To have sex before making love, is like putting the cart before the horse and trying to figure out where to hook up the bridle and rains. It's not right. Make love first and then everything falls into place naturally.

It is a new era today as compared to 50 years ago when men (or male dominant thinking and control) ruled everything. The underground movement of feminine seeking more freedom, more space, more confidence has been a long-time struggle. It has been going on for a century or more, but only in the last 20 years or so have we noticed changes. Feminine power is the ability to love freely, without being controlled, owned, posses, ridiculed or repressed, like second-class citizens.  Feminine power is not a fist raised in defiance. It is a warm embracing hug given from the heart without censoring it. Feminine power has been repressed in men too. They have a feminine side, also, and their ability to love freely has also been repressed and controlled by both women and authorities.  We all need to grow the love that is within us, locked up.

It is still a male-dominant world. The struggle to be free of ridicule, repression and control is not a fight against authorities. It is a brutal fight with oneself, and one's own belief system and ingrained habit of lying to oneself. One's own hardened heart must be softened and melted from within the cage. That is the only way to breathe free. Then a great peace enters and loving others comes natural to us. Without jealousy and ownership and insecurity. Love awakens from within our own tissues, cells, fluids and bones of our bodies.

What our massage club for loving couples is all about, is getting together to swap massages and awaken the love within. We invite couples to join us. At the moment we are only seeking couples because we need organic balance for the sake of energies. Men's energies flow outward and downward to objectify relationships, and women's energies flow inward and upward to FEEL  relationships. Too many men focus the energies towards physicality and sexuality; while too many women focus the energies inwardly. Our massage swap is practice in putting hands on other people with respect and caring. It's simply massage and it's happy and light without hidden agendas. It's simply massage.

I am communicating with people who write to Anakosha. We have been contacted by 11 couples. David and I have met three of them, well, four of them, and we will meet a fifth this week. We have massaged two couples. Well, actually three. Or four. It's hard to count because we have met people before we started counting and committing to the current protocol shown above. I know many more couples. There is a qualified list of people to reach out to. I am sharing this information in the spirit of transparency and openness, so the reader can get the idea of what this is all about. It's a new concept.

The rate of meeting couples is slow. We expected it to be slow because it's not a massage with hot sex tacked onto the end. A massage club with hot sex would bring swinging couples to us in droves. But, no. This is an introduction to love that could be considered ascension massage. Meaning lifting up to higher, more blissful realms. To another plane of being where you feel more whole, more vital, more relaxed, more loving and blissful. You feel the fetters fall away and you don't care if the fire alarm rings or the house is burning. You are beyond that. You feel free of the bonds that chain you to physicality. But it's also a human feeling. It is joyful, happy, and it enhances the love you feel for all people, everyone, and everything.  Women love it, men are surprised by how good they feel.

Love is not only personal between a couple. Love is as wide as the ocean and deep as the sea. It does not have any boundaries. Love is a mysterious energy that can be accessed through human relatioinships. It flows when we know how to allow it to flow. No matter what situation you are in, you can access love. It can melt walls and barriers on every level. But - big but - we as a culture have been brainwashed to hold it back. We have put chain-link steel mesh around us to make sure we hold it back. You always have your personal relationship, but you expand your personal relationship in your own good time, when it's right for you and you are in agreement. When you expand your relationship to include others into it, then you expand it in a way that is unconditional and respectful. You don't expect anything back from them.

David and I are here to introduce you to this greater love which we are designed to enjoy as human beings. We are not designed to hold back on love but we need to learn how to expand it without hurting anyone. Or ourselves. We are doing this by offering readers to join a Massage Swap Club for Couples. We have to practice giving massage and receiving massage without expecting something in exchange - except a massage! We must experience it. Words are a poor substitute for experience.

The flowing begins with hands-on someone or receiving from someone. You can feel it almost immediately. A higher, wider, freer, happier state of bliss. It's not about sex but  there is a second level to this club for loving couples, where you can take it further into physical lovemaking if each one chooses. There will never ever be a mandatory "have to" as in swinging. Access to the second level (at another time and place) is only gained by attending the first level preparatory training in the art of love. We are preparing people for greater ascending human love.

If you are interested, please contact us HERE and make an appointment to come in and meet with us. No cost, no expectations. Let's talk. If you as a woman alone or whose husband is not ready, we invite you to come in and meet us. No cost, no expectations. We need women to help us keep our focus on upward spiraling love.

Namaste,
Diana of Anakosha



Massage Club Newsletter 5/1/17

Loving Couples Massage Club Forming - Naples, Florida

A unique massage club for loving couples is forming in Naples for couples only. Contacts are being made. It will be a social atmosphere but a serious effort at massage, the main event, where couples can practice an exquisite type of massage with other couples. This is new. Never been done before. It's in a private home in Naples. There will be time to socialize, introduce yourself, ask questions, be prepped about behavior and etiquette. There are massage tables and lotions. It is sensual but not sexual. No prior experience is required to participate but it is for couples only. Singles later after a foundation is secured. David and I (Diana of Anakosha) are the leaders and we will demonstrate. No cost for this, no dues. To find out more, contact us HERE.

In addition, David is offering Tantric Massage

Tantric Massage for singles, and Tantric Training for couples. $100 a session for either. Tantric Massage is done in silence, with focus on the person on the table. There is a channeling of very high and refined energy into the body, moving through layers upon layers, bringing them into alignment for feelings of peace, bliss and love beyond normal. In contrast, a Tantric Training session is usually done with the woman on the table and her male partner assisting and learning. David's focus is divided then between the lady on the table and consciously explaining to the man what he is doing. To set an appointment contact David HERE. 

Now, on to the newsletter, which means me flowing a stream of consciousness.

About Tantra

Tantra is becoming quite a popular subject these days, right alongside interest in the spiritual principles and cosmic law. Weaving spiritual love and sensual love together is something of a mystery. David and I have explored Tantra and its ramifications from various angles, and we have reached a conclusion. David is offering his services in Tantric Massage, which is mostly women clients though he will accept a male client. I do not offer Tantric Massage myself, because the sexual orientation in some men and women (more the men) is too great for me to work with.
 
David, on the other hand, is much better able to work with women because the feminine body, biologically, does not have the same urgency pushing outward. Women do not have the same blockages that men have. The male body shuts down the emotional nature which, in turn, causes a buildup and concentration of earth energy in the lower parts of the body. The chakras are closed down. We'll work with chakras in everyone. Women, generally speaking have a different kind of need - a need for a more elevated loving, nurturing energy. David can do this. This is his specialty and greatest gift.

More about us

David and I have been learning and growing, each separately, for we do not live together. For those who haven't kept up with my blog on Anakosha, David is not my husband, he is a soul-mate friend and we share a common dream. We are collaborators in loving massage. We are each married to other people and happy with our home lives. But we have a common goal and we are taking steps to implement it. We both have experience with the higher form of love which transcends personal love. Love with a capital L. This is what the Massage Club will build on. 

Personal love vs. impersonal love

In the Massage Club, we use personal love to begin with - the loving bond between each couple. A couple is already in love. They have already mated together and have a commitment. Even if you don't think of it as love, it is. For example, some couples don't make physical love much any more but they share life on many levels. That does not make them any less in love if they are not sexual any more. They have moved to higher planes of understanding. They have woven their energies together and expanded beyond being two separate individuals. They know what bonding means.

But deep inside, on the interior at soul level, there is often a vacuum or void which is not understood. Where does it come from? And how do we fill it? It is often the man who feels the urge first for more excitement. It could be the woman, but whether it's him or her, there comes a time when they need to speak about it.  Are they jointly ready to expand their love further out, by inviting other people in? They don't think of it as love. They think of it as sex or intimacy. They have not yet been introduced to this greater Love with a capital L.

So sexually, how do we do this? How do we reach out to other people intimately, without becoming attached to them? Without falling in love, or becoming emotionally entangled in their lives? How do we prevent damaging the relationship? That is what personal love is. But there is another form of interaction with mature adults who can move past the personal attachment stage and love many people. We haven't been shown how to do that yet, but that's what our massage club for loving couples is all about.

There are lots of opportunities for sex - swinging, dating, cheating, open relationships, poyamory - the internet is flooded with social networks catering to this need. But none that offer the higher aspects of responsible, easy, casual, social intimacy. I have been told that this is not going to work, but David and I know that it will. We have personally lived it ourselves. It is the dream we share - to have many, many people all free and liberated from the confines of restricted, socially accepted norms. We are going to have to practice, though, and learn what that means. The massage club for loving couples will give us that opportunity to practice. Words won't be able to explain it. It is something that has to be experienced and shared with other live bodies.

It's not about sex or giving up sex. It's about engaging with others with an open  heart and mind, and receiving from others who are also opening their hearts and minds. It's about trust. A more liberated and  easy way of interacting with others is available as we raise our abilities to receive and trust others. This is easy to say but not so easy to do. Each one of us has had to grow in our ability to do that. It can't be forced. Nobody has been able to force-feed anyone something new.  It is a matter of experiencing and understanding.

That's why I'm writing so much. I write a lot. My fingers keep moving over the keyboard. Most people don't want to read all this stuff and that's OK. It is my way of preparing the readership to understand what the massage club is about. It filters out those who don't want it. Some will be attracted to it. We are attracted to something when we are ready for it. In the case of a couple, they will have to talk about it. Are they ready to try this?

Impersonal love is personal love that doesn't focus on one person to the exclusion of others. Personal love is exclusive. A relationship is personal love binding two people together. You love your mate over and above everyone else.  Polyamory is a new movement of individuals exploring the possibilities of loving more than one person at a time. They are working at expanding love but it's hard work. So, yes, marriages do break up when one of them falls in love with a different person and leaves the former mate. It does happen.

They haven't yet learned all there is to know about the larger love. How to love many people is a spiritual evolution. It is an evolution in consciousness that includes physical intimacy. In the massage club we stop short of sex during the massage for a number of reasons. All of which helps us to become more loving with more people, without separating and focusing on just one person.

We can love many people at the same time, just as we can love many children at the same time. We do it by not becoming entangled with their personal emotional issues. There are people who are what we call "serial monogamists". They want to love many people but they become emotionally involved and nest down with one. Then they become bored and break that bond to move on to the next lover, to become entangled with them. I knew a woman who married 13 men, one after the other, because she kept falling in love and becoming emotionally involved, and then she would find a new lover to become attached to, and divorcing the former one. She eventually found swinging and went back to her first husband with whom she is today.

Swinging is a first step in this learning curve to learn about not becoming emotionally involved, however, swinging succeeds by leaving love out of the equation. Love is critically important. Emotions and feelings are very important to the wholeness, wellness and happiness in an individual . It is time we learn how to incorporate love, emotions and feelings into our friendships, so we can remain open and healthy WITHOUT becoming emotionally involved. How to enjoy the richness of close personal bonding and experience that huge "out-of-body" feeling of being connected. We all have the desire for that greater experience.

Our massage club for loving couples will provide opportunities to shift some of our attitudes so we can accomplish that. As we open the doors of inner feelings and emotions without making it personal (like sex does) we will grow exponentially. The massage swaps will help us to mingle with the "right" group of couples who also want to go in this direction. It's a soul expanding journey.

It is an emotional and mental preparation and training for profound intimacy experiences. It is all up to each person, however. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink, the saying goes. When a person is ready, they're ready to open and feel. This massage swap idea provides opportunities. That's all. We are each a sovereign individual who gets it in his/her own right time. There is something magic in hands-on loving massage, and we can demonstrate it and practice it. Plus you'll meet others at a massage swap and what you do with those contacts is entirely up to you. You will meet  people in this unusual group. Some will be compatible, others will not but we need each other to grow.

We need each other to expand our love and freedom

The massage club is being formed because we need each other. We need each other to expand our love and our freedom. We can't very well experience freedom at home alone with our primary mate. We already had our freedom time with them during our dating and honeymoon stage. Then we nested and settled down. It's time now for some more freedom. However, freedom with dignity and higher morals is different from the drunken "partying-til-dawn" kind of freedom. The latter is a road to disaster, while the first leads to feelings of exhilaration and ecstasy - the freedom to love many and all without restriction.

I realize this is a hard concept to grasp. If words alone could do it, we could stop right here. But it's going to take hands-on practicen. Hands-on engaging with experienced leaders in love to guide you. We need others to grow. Of course, we can join a bowling club, or a yoga club or rowing club, but intimate contact would not be part of the program, which is what we as a culture, as a people, as a world, need the most. Letting go of blockages we don't know we have. How to receive love. This is how we become more receptive to love.

Sensual but not sexual

Our planned massage club for loving couples is for the purpose of practicing love by engaging with people through hugs, strokes and touching. It is sensual but it's without emphasis on sex. It produces a larger sensation of being loved and cared for. There is nothing more intimate than stroking the naked body of a stranger with the stranger's spouse, and yours, alongside. We who have been to massage school have had practice massaging bodies, so we have the confidence. However, there are rules in massage school training. David and I have moved past that part. We have discovered something more liberating and connecting that we want to share with others so others can do it too. It's not a physical technique. It requires an inner shift of focus, from head (brain) to feelings within the body.

The fear of intimacy

This is hugely frightening to do for those who have no experience in body work. Being afraid of intimacy is common. Everybody is. Our culture trained us to be afraid. Walls have been carefully and expertly constructed to keep us safe from intimacy. And it's all an illusion  We dissolve those  fears by  developing trust.We develop trust by the time to meet and talk first, and by sharing intimate information. In words. This opens the mind beyond what is normally accepted. Breaking the illusion of what's appropriate and acceptable is the first step in developing trust.

When we start engaging with others by sharing information we have already broken the first barrier of being intimate. The second barrier is physically touching. David and I share with you techniques that further help in building trust, because you don't want to inadvertently do something that will cause someone to close down. We really need to practice this. We all do. Me included.

As we practice swapping massage and melding energies, we are opening ourselves to more love. We are leaning to receive the honor and respect the others are giving to us. Our culture is awash with disrespect and suspicioni, but we are capable of higher qualities. We know we are, but we don't live them because social etiquette demands we be one of the guys or one of the girls. To show respect, honor, decency and principled behavior, we are seen as "she thinks she's better than us."


There are very simple guidelines. Everybody knows the principles in their heart. We just never get the opportunity to practice them "out loud". In the open where others can see them and be raised by them. Elevating thoughts bring elevating feelings. We  practice stroking with sacredness. It is fulfilling. It melts barriers.

Personal love expands to impersonal love

Personal love is the first step in building love to something larger than "one". When two "ones" come together and become joined in a relationship, they have multiplied the love within them. They merge their personal love to become a larger love. A relationship has already begun the evolutionary step of expanding.  A single person is not ready for this yet. That is why we are inviting couples to begin with in our massage club. The process is already underway.

When the time comes to start discussing what to do to enrich the relationship, there are many ways to go. The bottom line is a desire to expand the love they have between them to new heights and depths. It requires other people. It requires interacting and engaging other people more freely and loosely than what we've been programmed for.  We're stepping outside of the box that our parents were in. We're ready to expand the rules and try something new and different.

It's not about sex

A couple talks about where did the excitement go? And it starts out being about sex. We get hung up over the sex thing but it's not about sex. It's rather sinister to think that we've been conditioned to think sex is all there is. But what's really going on in a monotonous monogamous relationship is a desire to have some freedom. It's about loosening the chains that bind, but the chains are out-dated belief systems. Boredom comes about from a need for fresh air. Innocent fresh air. The belief and programming of our culture is to find a new sex partner, or an additional sex partner or get into swinging for more sex.

But the truth is, we want to enjoy more excitement. To be free to spread our wings. Sex may be exciting for some people, but it's a turn-off for a lot of others. The greater desire is to engage with others more freely. And we can. We don't have to stay inside the box if we have a place to go to practice loosening our belts and enjoying more freedom with more people - and with guidelines in how to change our attitudes so we don't hurt ourselves or others. It's time we dismantled what has been drummed it into us. Sex is the most obvious.  It comes at us from every angle, making us think if we don't have a romantic sexual person in our lives that we are losers. It is a depressing thought which leads many people to do terrible things. We must change the attitude to one that doesn't require sex as part of the need.

It's not about sex. It's about connection and the feeling of excitement. Let's loosen the clothes that restrict and be more natural. Nature does not conform to one species, but engages all species and a free-roaming blend of the law of attraction and rejection. By becoming more natural, we are drawn to those who are suited to us. It's important to engage with others without becoming emotionally entangled. The need to feel alive is not about sex, it's about feeling. Period. How do we get to feel more? By engaging with others more openly and freely. That is the reason for the massage club for loving couples. There is a bigger picture involved.

The Massage Club - how to join

Contact us by sending a message and introducing yourself. Couples only, please. A couple can be a dating couple who care for each other. We would like to meet you first, and demonstrate our unique method of massage. There is no cost. No dues. Once we meet, chat and demonstrate our massage, you will be placed on our invitation list to receive scheduled massage swap dates. At each massage swap, the only thing required is that you give one massage and receive one. For older people who have a difficult time standing, there are stools. It is possible to give loving strokes while sitting on a stool. I get tired myself sometimes and always have a stool nearby.

The "who to massage" will be up to each individual or couple. There will be time to get to know the others before going to the tables. David and I will demonstrate how to channel the highest form of love through your hands. You will see how gratifying it is to be in league with so many loving people. It is giving and receiving. Not just one sided.

We are asking couples to meet us at David's studio in Naples, one couple at a time. We are growing the Massage Club gently and sending our message out in a soft approach. This club is not open to the random public. There is a filtering process. We want us to meet first.

Well, it's time to stop this endless musing about it. I do tend to write a lot. But it is
how I get the message out. Through words. If you want to read more of my writing, go to my blog on Anakosha HERE. 

I will be sending more newsletters in the future. If you don't want to receive them, let me know by returning this email with REMOVE ME on the subject line.

Thank you for listening.
Love and Light,
Diana of Anakosha


Massage Club Forming for Loving Couples 4/22/17
                                                            
Anakosha is announcing the formation of a unique massage club for loving couples. This new club is for the purpose of expanding the energy of Love, with a capital L. All ages are welcome. Whether you are a newly-in-love relationship or a long-time married relationship seeking to spice things up - or a highly evolved couple who already know these things - all body types and nationalities are welcome. We are all SO different. But note: English is important.

I am Diana of Anakosha. I have been maintaining the Anakosha website for 20 years. I have tried to start a massage club in the past but I have not succeeded so far. Some of you know me as a long-time hostess of swing parties along with my husband. But swinging focuses on sex and, though I have enjoyed the many friends I met in swinging, my desire was not being fulfilled to expand the love side of my nature. A desire began to build in me to have a group of couples who also wanted to expand love beyond the sexual zones. Couples, because I needed women to help me; men always took it down into sex. This dream has continued to intensify over the years because swinging has become a barrier. It stops me. Swinging has an unspoken rule of "No love in the lifestyle; it's just sex."

I could not seem to break out of that solid belief structure for many, many years, tightly woven as it was into the hearts and minds and belief patterns of of everyone involved. But on the other hand it served as a rich cocoon in which a yearning grew in me for something more. This yearning popped out into the open in a surprising way.

I personally gave up swinging. And as soon as I went public that I was giving up swinging, I met a man who had the same dream. He is another massage therapist equally desirous of exploring and liberating Love. Notice the Capital L in Love because that is how we differentiate the higher form of Love from personal love.

David is my partner, not my husband. We are a couple, but not in the romantic sense. We are married to other people. We are soul mate friends whose love of massage and the higher form of Love brought us into collaboration and the sharing of a dream. It didn't come easy at first, we had to work at it. But we are both experienced in therapeutic massage and have expanded beyond what is taught in massage schools.

It's not only in swinging that Love is squelched. In our massage practices love blossoms often, easily, naturally. We are trained, both as professionals and private citizens, to squelch it because it simply isn't done. It isn't appropriate. It's against the rules of our culture to allow love to flow freely. We think it will lead to sex, but actually the reverse is true.

When we squelch love, we hold back a natural flow. The Love from Mother Earth travels upward through us to meet the downward flow coming from Father Sky. It is a feedback loop that keeps us alive. When we repress the flow of love in us, we block the flow. Blocking the flow builds desire. Desire builds up from our repression, bigger and bigger, and soon it demands release. And all because we block the natural flow within us. Love is innate and it demands to be free.

We think love is a spiritual quality, and it's true. But it is also a human quality. We have only explored personal love as a people, but there is a larger Love and a more advanced Love that has yet to be explored. Because we don't understand it, we are afraid of it. We are afraid of its power. We are afraid of its intimacy. We are afraid of what it might do to us. Yes, I have felt that fear, and the jealousy that comes from holding it back, but I have experienced the larger Love too, and I trust it now.

Swingers do not want to go there, and that's appropriate for them. But there are others who are ready to move past that and begin exploring the greater Love - the greater Love while in the physical. Our goal for this club is to practice flowing Love through massage. Massage is our language of communication. It is a silent language. Love is felt through feelings. Higher and more refined feelings that reach into bliss, ecstasy and more. Joy and liberation increases as we allow love to flow without stopping it. Love flows best when it's shared, like water when it's turned on at the faucet. It cannot flow if it's turned off.

Each couple who practices massage with others, probably strangers in the beginning, but later to become friends, will increase the flow of love between the two of them. They will then bring that largesse back home to the family. You can't help radiating love when it's active. I've seen it at the parties. Love radiates like a bulb in a lamp that has been turned up to high. The person glows. This is not from the average sexual encounter. I've seen plenty of those. This is when love is flowing.

David and I love that massage is available to us as a tool. We are grateful to have the training. We are ready. We love sharing massage. We have met with a few couples already and we have been validated. This is the way to go. There is a saying, "Love isn't something that was put here to stay; Love isn't Love 'til it's given away." We want to form a massage club so we can share massage with others. We are building a list of contact names who are on the same page as we are. When we have sufficient numbers, we will schedule a private meet n' greet with loving massages to go along with it. We are now reaching out to let others know what we are doing.

Our approach is sensual, but not sexual. Of the many couples who have contacted me in the past, quite a few are interested in Tantra. We are not teaching Tantra, but consider this a preliminary preparation. Like you have to learn English before you can get into kindergarten or the first grade. The step before the first step leading to Tantra is learning about Love with a capital L. It's an attitude. The quality of Love comes first. We all need to learn about Love with a capital L before learning the techniques of Tantra. Because Tantra is the flowing of Love with a capital L.

David and Diana are not our real names. We remain anonymous until we know you in person. We are not asking for money. There is no cost. No dues. We are unfolding a dream and we don't know where the dream is going to lead. We have an idea but we can't KNOW it until we start flowing it with more couples and sharing the dream so there is participation going on. We feel it has huge potential but we are going to have to learn as we go. I feel badly that several years ago I wasn't ready to respond to this couple when they wrote me several years ago:

(quote) "We have had a lifetime of experiences and have shared them with many along the way. We have discussed the nature of divine Love and its connection to sexual expression. We have visited several locations where invitations to participate in extra-sexual contact was offered but was purely that, sexual. We have not found a place or group of people that places their focus on loving relationships so we have not participated in the sharing that we are convinced has to be done through Love. We have much to share with others that goes beyond the sexual encounter and are careful with whom we share the adventures of this incredible lifetime. After reading your words in this website there is a feeling of understanding regarding the role sex is meant to be discussed and shared. We are divine creations and are here to learn and teach one another through loving relationships. We invite you to respond if you feel the energy and Love behind our intentions." (end quote)

I am sharing this message with you, and I think this couple won't mind because you won't know who they are anyway. But I'm sharing it because so much is portrayed here. You can FEEL it. There is more waiting for us to experience. In the beginning there will be only a few responding to this, but it will grow. The greater experience of love is ready to pour forth. We each have a different outer persona so we will not all be attracted to one another, but underneath the mask we are nameless cluster of feelings and knowings. The simple effort of massaging with kindness to and from a stranger provides a certain "quickening". A spark of recognition. A feeling. A perception. A prior life memory. That's when differences diminish and energy fields merge. It's all done in silence. Many, many spontaneous healings are accomplished in this manner, silently, without words.

Our location is Naples, Florida. We will meet first in David's professional studio to talk and then demonstrate massage. Contact us "http://www.anakosha.org/contact.html" to set up an appointment. After that we will meet in a private home that has been prepared for this. It's out in the country. Groups will be small, probably under under 10 couples. Each time we meet we will include introductions and snacks and practice nudity, optionally. Swapping massage is the main reason we're getting together. Again, it is for couples only, with apologies to singles. Maybe later. We won't do any massaging on the first day we meet, but if we all feel good about it, we'll schedule a second meeting to demonstrate our energy approach.

Again, please send a message to us "http://www.anakosha.org/contact.html" or simply reply to me above. Introduce yourselves. If you are not in the best of health, do not let that hold you back. Let it be an incentive. But you will need to help give too. We are seniors ourselves. And I can tell you that each time I give a massage I feel brighter, healthier and happier when done, than when I started. It is the flowing of love that improves the quality of our life force.

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Thank you for listening.
Love and Light,
Diana of Anakosha