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Newsletter 5/14/17
Loving Couples Massage Swap - Naples, Florida
A unique massage club for loving couples is underway in Naples for couples only. It will be a social atmosphere but massage is the main goal for couples to meet and practice intimate loving massage with other couples that is healing and sensual, but not sexual. This has never been done before. It's in a private home in Naples. There will be time to socialize, introduce yourself, ask questions, be prepped about behavior and etiquette. There are massage tables and lotions. No prior experience in massage is required. David and I (Diana of Anakosha) are the leaders and we will demonstrate. Women alone are invited, but not men alone yet because we need more feminine energy than male energy. There is no cost for this, no dues. To find out more, contact us HERE.
Tantric Massage & Tantric Training
Tantric Massage for singles, and Tantric Training for couples. $100 a session for either. Tantric Massage is done in silence, with focus on the person on the table. There is a channeling of very high and refined energy into the body, moving through layers upon layers, bringing them into alignment for feelings of peace, bliss and love beyond normal. In contrast, a Tantric Training session is usually done with the woman on the table and her male partner assisting and learning. David's focus is divided then between the lady on the table and consciously explaining to the man what he is doing. To set an appointment contact David HERE.
The Newsletter 5/14/17
Happy Mothers Day to all the mothers and would-be mothers who read this. There is a happy upward movement of love going out and around the world today from offspring to Moms everywhere. A Mother's love is a special kind of love. It is feminine. It nurtures where things are not right and it helps to mend them.
Speaking of feminine, this week David and I will meet with a woman without her husband with the intention of inviting her into the massage swap group for loving couples. Apparently he is not ready, bless his soul. We love the men - our men - but many of them simply are not ready to receive nourishing, loving massage. It is perhaps the objectivity and physicality that men have worked with all their life which cannot understand what this that we do is all about. What is the purpose? How does it fit it into MY life? Why should I do it? Why should I trust it?
This that David and I are offering is educational. It's a demonstration in how to relax and receive. I guess that is difficult for men to do but we are hoping. We invite the men to participate with us to LEARN about it. Accompany their wives and find out more about it. Learn what it is like to receive love in a different way other than sensual or sexual. How to relax and be soothed by people who care without wanting anything back. How to be appreciated in a kindly fashion. The biological chemistry that men work on, I suspect, not being masculine, is having to be on guard and watching out for the dangers in life. They are the protectors of their women and children. It has been the cultural programming of men of our species for a long time. And under those conditions, yes, I can see where it is difficult to drop one's guard and to suddenly trust. That is the woman’s role, to trust and intuit and feel kindly towards others.
It is a difficult thing to do for men. That is why David and I invite couples to come in to meet us first, just to talk and share information. We don’t want to push massage on anyone, but that is our method of working with people and we do not charge money for it. It is free.
As I am beginning to understand it, men by and large have been so busy serving in the man's' role, that he cannot simply drop that role and open himself to receiving the support and nurturing from others. That is what we have decided to offer this to the women even if their men do not want to, or are not ready to accompany them. It is the women who are the leaders of the new age dawning upon us, the age of enlightenment or lighting up on the INSIDE. Light and love are synonymous, so when we light up the INSIDE, we are awakening the love inside. Women will be leading the way in the coming days.
Women have talents that men don't have. They just don’t have confidence in those talents. They have not been supported in those talents. They have been put down. Women have the softness that is inherent in human kind, and they are safeguarding that softness until it is time to bring it forth. David and I are offering to assist in bringing it forth. We love our men and we want to bring forth the softness in them. And the intuition and the feelings of being loved and cared for in our men. We have not been able to demonstrate that in the past ages because of the violence of our planet and cities.
Women have the inner connections that will help prepare the men to receive this finer activity of life, after they themselves have received the spiritual support and spiritual confidence that they are right and they have been all along. Now is the time for women to stop allowing themselves to be dismissed, and to be stronger and more daring and courageous in standing up for that softness that they represent in their inner hearts but have not dared express in their outer world.
It is a subtle but conscious act to press the will of love, kindness and nourishment outward onto life, after centuries of having been intimidated. Women are designed for this but have been forced to fold their wings because practical matters take precedence in a mentally-driven world. The divine feminine‘s purpose is to correct the mean and ugly and nourish the good and noble. Slow hands stroking with a warm heart is good for a person because there is a weaving together of both or all parties’ energies. It is used, not for foreplay, but for cellular healing, soul healing, which sensitizes a person to receive better, bigger, more and wiser. Slow massage is not foreplay for sex. Working the genitals is foreplay for sex. Slow massage with a warm heart all over the body is different. It prepares a person to receive love, to feel love, and to flow love back. This is the universal love. Love with a capital L. There is a “heart-of-God” feeling to it on a cosmic scale.
David and I work on the vibration of love. Love is not personal. Love is a universal principal. Is a spiritual intelligence. Most people think of love as something reserved for mates, lovers, families and very special friends, but it is actually the glue that holds everything together - galaxies and suns and planets and moons and the entire nature kingdom and allows civilizations to continue. And it holds people together, their relationships, communities and families, and neighbors and co-workers. When something is falling apart in life, think love. Shift the focus to love and picture love all around that part of life that is not working. Put some time into imagining Love.
Love has to be consciously applied and thought of. It's an effort to figure out what is the right vibration of love, how it feels, where to focus, what to do to bring it about. But finding the right feeling, texture or vibration of love is a worthwhile effort. When you hit on it you know. It’s transformational. It's a soothing, peaceful, mending vibration. The thing that is broken may not get fixed instantaneously, like magic, but YOU will be. And when YOU are soothed, mended and healed with the Love vibration, then your world begins to change. It will rearrange itself to conform to YOU. As David says, “After you have received this universal Love with a capital L, you will never be the same again.“ David channels more universal Love with a capital L than anyone else I know.
Warmly,
Diana of Anakosha
Newsletter 5/8/17
Loving Couples Massage Club Forming - Naples, Florida
A unique massage club for loving couples is forming in Naples for couples only. Contacts are being made. It will be a social atmosphere but a serious effort at massage, the main event, where couples can practice an exquisite type of massage with other couples. This is new. Never been done before. It's in a private home in Naples. There will be time to socialize, introduce yourself, ask questions, be prepped about behavior and etiquette. There are massage tables and lotions. It is sensual but not sexual. No prior experience is required to participate but it is for couples only. Singles later after a foundation is secured. David and I (Diana of Anakosha) are the leaders and we will demonstrate. No cost for this, no dues. To find out more, contact us HERE.
In addition, David is offering Tantric Massage
Tantric Massage for singles, and Tantric Training for couples. $100 a session for either. Tantric Massage is done in silence, with focus on the person on the table. There is a channeling of very high and refined energy into the body, moving through layers upon layers, bringing them into alignment for feelings of peace, bliss and love beyond normal. In contrast, a Tantric Training session is usually done with the woman on the table and her male partner assisting and learning. David's focus is divided then between the lady on the table and consciously explaining to the man what he is doing. To set an appointment contact David HERE.
The Newsletter
David and I met last Thursday on the mat in my sacred room with lovely quiet music playing and windows open to the breezes outdoors. It was a beautiful day and in my special room, which has seen a lot of action over the years, both group room action and spiritual silence with no movement, we cuddled warmly and told each other what was going on in our lives. What we were learning. What we were experiencing. What we were feeling. We have a sacred relationship.
And then we laid on our backs and in silence looked up past the ceiling where stars are glued - the kind that light up after the lights go out at night - watched our each our own visions unfold. Inner dreams that are unique to the soul. Then we talked. We had a lot to share. It was slow-down time with lengths of pause between us. And then we stopped talking all together and went into the timeless zone beyond movement. No, it wasn't sexual. It was Love. Ours is a sacred relationship that does not require sex.
The reason I describe our meeting is to let everyone know there is more to this than sexuality. The men are continuing to write to me asking about the sensual side of massage. They are interested in what women want, and how they can meet the requirements that women won't tell them. I responded to a man today in this vein. I posted my response (not his words, only mine) HERE. My mission - and David's mission - is to introduce the greater love, to remind everyone that there IS a greater love, a greater feeling of oneness, bliss, togetherness, rapture, and how to access it. Sex is irrelevant if you don't have love. It isn't accessed through the genitals. To have sex before making love, is like putting the cart before the horse and trying to figure out where to hook up the bridle and rains. It's not right. Make love first and then everything falls into place naturally.
It is a new era today as compared to 50 years ago when men (or male dominant thinking and control) ruled everything. The underground movement of feminine seeking more freedom, more space, more confidence has been a long-time struggle. It has been going on for a century or more, but only in the last 20 years or so have we noticed changes. Feminine power is the ability to love freely, without being controlled, owned, posses, ridiculed or repressed, like second-class citizens. Feminine power is not a fist raised in defiance. It is a warm embracing hug given from the heart without censoring it. Feminine power has been repressed in men too. They have a feminine side, also, and their ability to love freely has also been repressed and controlled by both women and authorities. We all need to grow the love that is within us, locked up.
It is still a male-dominant world. The struggle to be free of ridicule, repression and control is not a fight against authorities. It is a brutal fight with oneself, and one's own belief system and ingrained habit of lying to oneself. One's own hardened heart must be softened and melted from within the cage. That is the only way to breathe free. Then a great peace enters and loving others comes natural to us. Without jealousy and ownership and insecurity. Love awakens from within our own tissues, cells, fluids and bones of our bodies.
What our massage club for loving couples is all about, is getting together to swap massages and awaken the love within. We invite couples to join us. At the moment we are only seeking couples because we need organic balance for the sake of energies. Men's energies flow outward and downward to objectify relationships, and women's energies flow inward and upward to FEEL relationships. Too many men focus the energies towards physicality and sexuality; while too many women focus the energies inwardly. Our massage swap is practice in putting hands on other people with respect and caring. It's simply massage and it's happy and light without hidden agendas. It's simply massage.
I am communicating with people who write to Anakosha. We have been contacted by 11 couples. David and I have met three of them, well, four of them, and we will meet a fifth this week. We have massaged two couples. Well, actually three. Or four. It's hard to count because we have met people before we started counting and committing to the current protocol shown above. I know many more couples. There is a qualified list of people to reach out to. I am sharing this information in the spirit of transparency and openness, so the reader can get the idea of what this is all about. It's a new concept.
The rate of meeting couples is slow. We expected it to be slow because it's not a massage with hot sex tacked onto the end. A massage club with hot sex would bring swinging couples to us in droves. But, no. This is an introduction to love that could be considered ascension massage. Meaning lifting up to higher, more blissful realms. To another plane of being where you feel more whole, more vital, more relaxed, more loving and blissful. You feel the fetters fall away and you don't care if the fire alarm rings or the house is burning. You are beyond that. You feel free of the bonds that chain you to physicality. But it's also a human feeling. It is joyful, happy, and it enhances the love you feel for all people, everyone, and everything. Women love it, men are surprised by how good they feel.
Love is not only personal between a couple. Love is as wide as the ocean and deep as the sea. It does not have any boundaries. Love is a mysterious energy that can be accessed through human relatioinships. It flows when we know how to allow it to flow. No matter what situation you are in, you can access love. It can melt walls and barriers on every level. But - big but - we as a culture have been brainwashed to hold it back. We have put chain-link steel mesh around us to make sure we hold it back. You always have your personal relationship, but you expand your personal relationship in your own good time, when it's right for you and you are in agreement. When you expand your relationship to include others into it, then you expand it in a way that is unconditional and respectful. You don't expect anything back from them.
David and I are here to introduce you to this greater love which we are designed to enjoy as human beings. We are not designed to hold back on love but we need to learn how to expand it without hurting anyone. Or ourselves. We are doing this by offering readers to join a Massage Swap Club for Couples. We have to practice giving massage and receiving massage without expecting something in exchange - except a massage! We must experience it. Words are a poor substitute for experience.
The flowing begins with hands-on someone or receiving from someone. You can feel it almost immediately. A higher, wider, freer, happier state of bliss. It's not about sex but there is a second level to this club for loving couples, where you can take it further into physical lovemaking if each one chooses. There will never ever be a mandatory "have to" as in swinging. Access to the second level (at another time and place) is only gained by attending the first level preparatory training in the art of love. We are preparing people for greater ascending human love.
If you are interested, please contact us HERE and make an appointment to come in and meet with us. No cost, no expectations. Let's talk. If you as a woman alone or whose husband is not ready, we invite you to come in and meet us. No cost, no expectations. We need women to help us keep our focus on upward spiraling love.
Namaste,
Diana of Anakosha
Newsletter 5/1/17
Loving Couples Massage Club Forming - Naples, Florida
A unique massage club for loving couples is forming in Naples for couples only. Contacts are being made. It will be a social atmosphere but a serious effort at massage, the main event, where couples can practice an exquisite type of massage with other couples. This is new. Never been done before. It's in a private home in Naples. There will be time to socialize, introduce yourself, ask questions, be prepped about behavior and etiquette. There are massage tables and lotions. It is sensual but not sexual. No prior experience is required to participate but it is for couples only. Singles later after a foundation is secured. David and I (Diana of Anakosha) are the leaders and we will demonstrate. No cost for this, no dues. To find out more, contact us HERE.
In addition, David is offering Tantric Massage
Tantric Massage for singles, and Tantric Training for couples. $100 a session for either. Tantric Massage is done in silence, with focus on the person on the table. There is a channeling of very high and refined energy into the body, moving through layers upon layers, bringing them into alignment for feelings of peace, bliss and love beyond normal. In contrast, a Tantric Training session is usually done with the woman on the table and her male partner assisting and learning. David's focus is divided then between the lady on the table and consciously explaining to the man what he is doing. To set an appointment contact David HERE.
Now, on to the newsletter, which means me flowing a stream of consciousness.
About Tantra
Tantra is becoming quite a popular subject these days, right alongside interest in the spiritual principles and cosmic law. Weaving spiritual love and sensual love together is something of a mystery. David and I have explored Tantra and its ramifications from various angles, and we have reached a conclusion. David is offering his services in Tantric Massage, which is mostly women clients though he will accept a male client. I do not offer Tantric Massage myself, because the sexual orientation in some men and women (more the men) is too great for me to work with.
David, on the other hand, is much better able to work with women because the feminine body, biologically, does not have the same urgency pushing outward. Women do not have the same blockages that men have. The male body shuts down the emotional nature which, in turn, causes a buildup and concentration of earth energy in the lower parts of the body. The chakras are closed down. We'll work with chakras in everyone. Women, generally speaking have a different kind of need - a need for a more elevated loving, nurturing energy. David can do this. This is his specialty and greatest gift.
More about us
David and I have been learning and growing, each separately, for we do not live together. For those who haven't kept up with my blog on Anakosha, David is not my husband, he is a soul-mate friend and we share a common dream. We are collaborators in loving massage. We are each married to other people and happy with our home lives. But we have a common goal and we are taking steps to implement it. We both have experience with the higher form of love which transcends personal love. Love with a capital L. This is what the Massage Club will build on.
Personal love vs. impersonal love
In the Massage Club, we use personal love to begin with - the loving bond between each couple. A couple is already in love. They have already mated together and have a commitment. Even if you don't think of it as love, it is. For example, some couples don't make physical love much any more but they share life on many levels. That does not make them any less in love if they are not sexual any more. They have moved to higher planes of understanding. They have woven their energies together and expanded beyond being two separate individuals. They know what bonding means.
But deep inside, on the interior at soul level, there is often a vacuum or void which is not understood. Where does it come from? And how do we fill it? It is often the man who feels the urge first for more excitement. It could be the woman, but whether it's him or her, there comes a time when they need to speak about it. Are they jointly ready to expand their love further out, by inviting other people in? They don't think of it as love. They think of it as sex or intimacy. They have not yet been introduced to this greater Love with a capital L.
So sexually, how do we do this? How do we reach out to other people intimately, without becoming attached to them? Without falling in love, or becoming emotionally entangled in their lives? How do we prevent damaging the relationship? That is what personal love is. But there is another form of interaction with mature adults who can move past the personal attachment stage and love many people. We haven't been shown how to do that yet, but that's what our massage club for loving couples is all about.
There are lots of opportunities for sex - swinging, dating, cheating, open relationships, poyamory - the internet is flooded with social networks catering to this need. But none that offer the higher aspects of responsible, easy, casual, social intimacy. I have been told that this is not going to work, but David and I know that it will. We have personally lived it ourselves. It is the dream we share - to have many, many people all free and liberated from the confines of restricted, socially accepted norms. We are going to have to practice, though, and learn what that means. The massage club for loving couples will give us that opportunity to practice. Words won't be able to explain it. It is something that has to be experienced and shared with other live bodies.
It's not about sex or giving up sex. It's about engaging with others with an open heart and mind, and receiving from others who are also opening their hearts and minds. It's about trust. A more liberated and easy way of interacting with others is available as we raise our abilities to receive and trust others. This is easy to say but not so easy to do. Each one of us has had to grow in our ability to do that. It can't be forced. Nobody has been able to force-feed anyone something new. It is a matter of experiencing and understanding.
That's why I'm writing so much. I write a lot. My fingers keep moving over the keyboard. Most people don't want to read all this stuff and that's OK. It is my way of preparing the readership to understand what the massage club is about. It filters out those who don't want it. Some will be attracted to it. We are attracted to something when we are ready for it. In the case of a couple, they will have to talk about it. Are they ready to try this?
Impersonal love is personal love that doesn't focus on one person to the exclusion of others. Personal love is exclusive. A relationship is personal love binding two people together. You love your mate over and above everyone else. Polyamory is a new movement of individuals exploring the possibilities of loving more than one person at a time. They are working at expanding love but it's hard work. So, yes, marriages do break up when one of them falls in love with a different person and leaves the former mate. It does happen.
They haven't yet learned all there is to know about the larger love. How to love many people is a spiritual evolution. It is an evolution in consciousness that includes physical intimacy. In the massage club we stop short of sex during the massage for a number of reasons. All of which helps us to become more loving with more people, without separating and focusing on just one person.
We can love many people at the same time, just as we can love many children at the same time. We do it by not becoming entangled with their personal emotional issues. There are people who are what we call "serial monogamists". They want to love many people but they become emotionally involved and nest down with one. Then they become bored and break that bond to move on to the next lover, to become entangled with them. I knew a woman who married 13 men, one after the other, because she kept falling in love and becoming emotionally involved, and then she would find a new lover to become attached to, and divorcing the former one. She eventually found swinging and went back to her first husband with whom she is today.
Swinging is a first step in this learning curve to learn about not becoming emotionally involved, however, swinging succeeds by leaving love out of the equation. Love is critically important. Emotions and feelings are very important to the wholeness, wellness and happiness in an individual . It is time we learn how to incorporate love, emotions and feelings into our friendships, so we can remain open and healthy WITHOUT becoming emotionally involved. How to enjoy the richness of close personal bonding and experience that huge "out-of-body" feeling of being connected. We all have the desire for that greater experience.
Our massage club for loving couples will provide opportunities to shift some of our attitudes so we can accomplish that. As we open the doors of inner feelings and emotions without making it personal (like sex does) we will grow exponentially. The massage swaps will help us to mingle with the "right" group of couples who also want to go in this direction. It's a soul expanding journey.
It is an emotional and mental preparation and training for profound intimacy experiences. It is all up to each person, however. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink, the saying goes. When a person is ready, they're ready to open and feel. This massage swap idea provides opportunities. That's all. We are each a sovereign individual who gets it in his/her own right time. There is something magic in hands-on loving massage, and we can demonstrate it and practice it. Plus you'll meet others at a massage swap and what you do with those contacts is entirely up to you. You will meet people in this unusual group. Some will be compatible, others will not but we need each other to grow.
We need each other to expand our love and freedom
The massage club is being formed because we need each other. We need each other to expand our love and our freedom. We can't very well experience freedom at home alone with our primary mate. We already had our freedom time with them during our dating and honeymoon stage. Then we nested and settled down. It's time now for some more freedom. However, freedom with dignity and higher morals is different from the drunken "partying-til-dawn" kind of freedom. The latter is a road to disaster, while the first leads to feelings of exhilaration and ecstasy - the freedom to love many and all without restriction.
I realize this is a hard concept to grasp. If words alone could do it, we could stop right here. But it's going to take hands-on practicen. Hands-on engaging with experienced leaders in love to guide you. We need others to grow. Of course, we can join a bowling club, or a yoga club or rowing club, but intimate contact would not be part of the program, which is what we as a culture, as a people, as a world, need the most. Letting go of blockages we don't know we have. How to receive love. This is how we become more receptive to love.
Sensual but not sexual
Our planned massage club for loving couples is for the purpose of practicing love by engaging with people through hugs, strokes and touching. It is sensual but it's without emphasis on sex. It produces a larger sensation of being loved and cared for. There is nothing more intimate than stroking the naked body of a stranger with the stranger's spouse, and yours, alongside. We who have been to massage school have had practice massaging bodies, so we have the confidence. However, there are rules in massage school training. David and I have moved past that part. We have discovered something more liberating and connecting that we want to share with others so others can do it too. It's not a physical technique. It requires an inner shift of focus, from head (brain) to feelings within the body.
The fear of intimacy
This is hugely frightening to do for those who have no experience in body work. Being afraid of intimacy is common. Everybody is. Our culture trained us to be afraid. Walls have been carefully and expertly constructed to keep us safe from intimacy. And it's all an illusion We dissolve those fears by developing trust.We develop trust by the time to meet and talk first, and by sharing intimate information. In words. This opens the mind beyond what is normally accepted. Breaking the illusion of what's appropriate and acceptable is the first step in developing trust.
When we start engaging with others by sharing information we have already broken the first barrier of being intimate. The second barrier is physically touching. David and I share with you techniques that further help in building trust, because you don't want to inadvertently do something that will cause someone to close down. We really need to practice this. We all do. Me included.
As we practice swapping massage and melding energies, we are opening ourselves to more love. We are leaning to receive the honor and respect the others are giving to us. Our culture is awash with disrespect and suspicioni, but we are capable of higher qualities. We know we are, but we don't live them because social etiquette demands we be one of the guys or one of the girls. To show respect, honor, decency and principled behavior, we are seen as "she thinks she's better than us."
There are very simple guidelines. Everybody knows the principles in their heart. We just never get the opportunity to practice them "out loud". In the open where others can see them and be raised by them. Elevating thoughts bring elevating feelings. We practice stroking with sacredness. It is fulfilling. It melts barriers.
Personal love expands to impersonal love
Personal love is the first step in building love to something larger than "one". When two "ones" come together and become joined in a relationship, they have multiplied the love within them. They merge their personal love to become a larger love. A relationship has already begun the evolutionary step of expanding. A single person is not ready for this yet. That is why we are inviting couples to begin with in our massage club. The process is already underway.
When the time comes to start discussing what to do to enrich the relationship, there are many ways to go. The bottom line is a desire to expand the love they have between them to new heights and depths. It requires other people. It requires interacting and engaging other people more freely and loosely than what we've been programmed for. We're stepping outside of the box that our parents were in. We're ready to expand the rules and try something new and different.
It's not about sex
A couple talks about where did the excitement go? And it starts out being about sex. We get hung up over the sex thing but it's not about sex. It's rather sinister to think that we've been conditioned to think sex is all there is. But what's really going on in a monotonous monogamous relationship is a desire to have some freedom. It's about loosening the chains that bind, but the chains are out-dated belief systems. Boredom comes about from a need for fresh air. Innocent fresh air. The belief and programming of our culture is to find a new sex partner, or an additional sex partner or get into swinging for more sex.
But the truth is, we want to enjoy more excitement. To be free to spread our wings. Sex may be exciting for some people, but it's a turn-off for a lot of others. The greater desire is to engage with others more freely. And we can. We don't have to stay inside the box if we have a place to go to practice loosening our belts and enjoying more freedom with more people - and with guidelines in how to change our attitudes so we don't hurt ourselves or others. It's time we dismantled what has been drummed it into us. Sex is the most obvious. It comes at us from every angle, making us think if we don't have a romantic sexual person in our lives that we are losers. It is a depressing thought which leads many people to do terrible things. We must change the attitude to one that doesn't require sex as part of the need.
It's not about sex. It's about connection and the feeling of excitement. Let's loosen the clothes that restrict and be more natural. Nature does not conform to one species, but engages all species and a free-roaming blend of the law of attraction and rejection. By becoming more natural, we are drawn to those who are suited to us. It's important to engage with others without becoming emotionally entangled. The need to feel alive is not about sex, it's about feeling. Period. How do we get to feel more? By engaging with others more openly and freely. That is the reason for the massage club for loving couples. There is a bigger picture involved.
The Massage Club - how to join
Contact us by sending a message and introducing yourself. Couples only, please. A couple can be a dating couple who care for each other. We would like to meet you first, and demonstrate our unique method of massage. There is no cost. No dues. Once we meet, chat and demonstrate our massage, you will be placed on our invitation list to receive scheduled massage swap dates. At each massage swap, the only thing required is that you give one massage and receive one. For older people who have a difficult time standing, there are stools. It is possible to give loving strokes while sitting on a stool. I get tired myself sometimes and always have a stool nearby.
The "who to massage" will be up to each individual or couple. There will be time to get to know the others before going to the tables. David and I will demonstrate how to channel the highest form of love through your hands. You will see how gratifying it is to be in league with so many loving people. It is giving and receiving. Not just one sided.
We are asking couples to meet us at David's studio in Naples, one couple at a time. We are growing the Massage Club gently and sending our message out in a soft approach. This club is not open to the random public. There is a filtering process. We want us to meet first.
Well, it's time to stop this endless musing about it. I do tend to write a lot. But it is
how I get the message out. Through words. If you want to read more of my writing, go to my blog on Anakosha HERE.
I will be sending more newsletters in the future. If you don't want to receive them, let me know by returning this email with REMOVE ME on the subject line.
Thank you for listening.
Love and Light,
Diana of Anakosha
Newsletter 4/22/17
Massage Club Forming for Loving Couples
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Anakosha is announcing the formation of a unique massage club for loving couples. This new club is for the purpose of expanding the energy of Love, with a capital L. All ages are welcome. Whether you are a newly-in-love relationship or a long-time married relationship seeking to spice things up - or a highly evolved couple who already know these things - all body types and nationalities are welcome. We are all SO different. But note: English is important.
I am Diana of Anakosha. I have been maintaining the Anakosha website for 20 years. I have tried to start a massage club in the past but I have not succeeded so far. Some of you know me as a long-time hostess of swing parties along with my husband. But swinging focuses on sex and, though I have enjoyed the many friends I met in swinging, my desire was not being fulfilled to expand the love side of my nature. A desire began to build in me to have a group of couples who also wanted to expand love beyond the sexual zones. Couples, because I needed women to help me; men always took it down into sex. This dream has continued to intensify over the years because swinging has become a barrier. It stops me. Swinging has an unspoken rule of "No love in the lifestyle; it's just sex."
I could not seem to break out of that solid belief structure for many, many years, tightly woven as it was into the hearts and minds and belief patterns of of everyone involved. But on the other hand it served as a rich cocoon in which a yearning grew in me for something more. This yearning popped out into the open in a surprising way.
I personally gave up swinging. And as soon as I went public that I was giving up swinging, I met a man who had the same dream. He is another massage therapist equally desirous of exploring and liberating Love. Notice the Capital L in Love because that is how we differentiate the higher form of Love from personal love.
David is my partner, not my husband. We are a couple, but not in the romantic sense. We are married to other people. We are soul mate friends whose love of massage and the higher form of Love brought us into collaboration and the sharing of a dream. It didn't come easy at first, we had to work at it. But we are both experienced in therapeutic massage and have expanded beyond what is taught in massage schools.
It's not only in swinging that Love is squelched. In our massage practices love blossoms often, easily, naturally. We are trained, both as professionals and private citizens, to squelch it because it simply isn't done. It isn't appropriate. It's against the rules of our culture to allow love to flow freely. We think it will lead to sex, but actually the reverse is true.
When we squelch love, we hold back a natural flow. The Love from Mother Earth travels upward through us to meet the downward flow coming from Father Sky. It is a feedback loop that keeps us alive. When we repress the flow of love in us, we block the flow. Blocking the flow builds desire. Desire builds up from our repression, bigger and bigger, and soon it demands release. And all because we block the natural flow within us. Love is innate and it demands to be free.
We think love is a spiritual quality, and it's true. But it is also a human quality. We have only explored personal love as a people, but there is a larger Love and a more advanced Love that has yet to be explored. Because we don't understand it, we are afraid of it. We are afraid of its power. We are afraid of its intimacy. We are afraid of what it might do to us. Yes, I have felt that fear, and the jealousy that comes from holding it back, but I have experienced the larger Love too, and I trust it now.
Swingers do not want to go there, and that's appropriate for them. But there are others who are ready to move past that and begin exploring the greater Love - the greater Love while in the physical. Our goal for this club is to practice flowing Love through massage. Massage is our language of communication. It is a silent language. Love is felt through feelings. Higher and more refined feelings that reach into bliss, ecstasy and more. Joy and liberation increases as we allow love to flow without stopping it. Love flows best when it's shared, like water when it's turned on at the faucet. It cannot flow if it's turned off.
Each couple who practices massage with others, probably strangers in the beginning, but later to become friends, will increase the flow of love between the two of them. They will then bring that largesse back home to the family. You can't help radiating love when it's active. I've seen it at the parties. Love radiates like a bulb in a lamp that has been turned up to high. The person glows. This is not from the average sexual encounter. I've seen plenty of those. This is when love is flowing.
David and I love that massage is available to us as a tool. We are grateful to have the training. We are ready. We love sharing massage. We have met with a few couples already and we have been validated. This is the way to go. There is a saying, "Love isn't something that was put here to stay; Love isn't Love 'til it's given away." We want to form a massage club so we can share massage with others. We are building a list of contact names who are on the same page as we are. When we have sufficient numbers, we will schedule a private meet n' greet with loving massages to go along with it. We are now reaching out to let others know what we are doing.
Our approach is sensual, but not sexual. Of the many couples who have contacted me in the past, quite a few are interested in Tantra. We are not teaching Tantra, but consider this a preliminary preparation. Like you have to learn English before you can get into kindergarten or the first grade. The step before the first step leading to Tantra is learning about Love with a capital L. It's an attitude. The quality of Love comes first. We all need to learn about Love with a capital L before learning the techniques of Tantra. Because Tantra is the flowing of Love with a capital L.
David and Diana are not our real names. We remain anonymous until we know you in person. We are not asking for money. There is no cost. No dues. We are unfolding a dream and we don't know where the dream is going to lead. We have an idea but we can't KNOW it until we start flowing it with more couples and sharing the dream so there is participation going on. We feel it has huge potential but we are going to have to learn as we go. I feel badly that several years ago I wasn't ready to respond to this couple when they wrote me several years ago:
(quote) "We have had a lifetime of experiences and have shared them with many along the way. We have discussed the nature of divine Love and its connection to sexual expression. We have visited several locations where invitations to participate in extra-sexual contact was offered but was purely that, sexual. We have not found a place or group of people that places their focus on loving relationships so we have not participated in the sharing that we are convinced has to be done through Love. We have much to share with others that goes beyond the sexual encounter and are careful with whom we share the adventures of this incredible lifetime. After reading your words in this website there is a feeling of understanding regarding the role sex is meant to be discussed and shared. We are divine creations and are here to learn and teach one another through loving relationships. We invite you to respond if you feel the energy and Love behind our intentions." (end quote)
I am sharing this message with you, and I think this couple won't mind because you won't know who they are anyway. But I'm sharing it because so much is portrayed here. You can FEEL it. There is more waiting for us to experience. In the beginning there will be only a few responding to this, but it will grow. The greater experience of love is ready to pour forth. We each have a different outer persona so we will not all be attracted to one another, but underneath the mask we are nameless cluster of feelings and knowings. The simple effort of massaging with kindness to and from a stranger provides a certain "quickening". A spark of recognition. A feeling. A perception. A prior life memory. That's when differences diminish and energy fields merge. It's all done in silence. Many, many spontaneous healings are accomplished in this manner, silently, without words.
Our location is Naples, Florida. We will meet first in David's professional studio to talk and then demonstrate massage. Contact us "http://www.anakosha.org/contact.html" to set up an appointment. After that we will meet in a private home that has been prepared for this. It's out in the country. Groups will be small, probably under under 10 couples. Each time we meet we will include introductions and snacks and practice nudity, optionally. Swapping massage is the main reason we're getting together. Again, it is for couples only, with apologies to singles. Maybe later. We won't do any massaging on the first day we meet, but if we all feel good about it, we'll schedule a second meeting to demonstrate our energy approach.
Again, please send a message to us "http://www.anakosha.org/contact.html" or simply reply to me above. Introduce yourselves. If you are not in the best of health, do not let that hold you back. Let it be an incentive. But you will need to help give too. We are seniors ourselves. And I can tell you that each time I give a massage I feel brighter, healthier and happier when done, than when I started. It is the flowing of love that improves the quality of our life force.
I will be sending more newsletters in the future. If you don't want to receive them, let me know by returning this email with REMOVE ME on the subject line.
Thank you for listening.
Love and Light,
Diana of Anakosha
Newsletter 5/14/17
Loving Couples Massage Swap - Naples, Florida
A unique massage club for loving couples is underway in Naples for couples only. It will be a social atmosphere but massage is the main goal for couples to meet and practice intimate loving massage with other couples that is healing and sensual, but not sexual. This has never been done before. It's in a private home in Naples. There will be time to socialize, introduce yourself, ask questions, be prepped about behavior and etiquette. There are massage tables and lotions. No prior experience in massage is required. David and I (Diana of Anakosha) are the leaders and we will demonstrate. Women alone are invited, but not men alone yet because we need more feminine energy than male energy. There is no cost for this, no dues. To find out more, contact us HERE.
Tantric Massage & Tantric Training
Tantric Massage for singles, and Tantric Training for couples. $100 a session for either. Tantric Massage is done in silence, with focus on the person on the table. There is a channeling of very high and refined energy into the body, moving through layers upon layers, bringing them into alignment for feelings of peace, bliss and love beyond normal. In contrast, a Tantric Training session is usually done with the woman on the table and her male partner assisting and learning. David's focus is divided then between the lady on the table and consciously explaining to the man what he is doing. To set an appointment contact David HERE.
The Newsletter 5/14/17
Happy Mothers Day to all the mothers and would-be mothers who read this. There is a happy upward movement of love going out and around the world today from offspring to Moms everywhere. A Mother's love is a special kind of love. It is feminine. It nurtures where things are not right and it helps to mend them.
Speaking of feminine, this week David and I will meet with a woman without her husband with the intention of inviting her into the massage swap group for loving couples. Apparently he is not ready, bless his soul. We love the men - our men - but many of them simply are not ready to receive nourishing, loving massage. It is perhaps the objectivity and physicality that men have worked with all their life which cannot understand what this that we do is all about. What is the purpose? How does it fit it into MY life? Why should I do it? Why should I trust it?
This that David and I are offering is educational. It's a demonstration in how to relax and receive. I guess that is difficult for men to do but we are hoping. We invite the men to participate with us to LEARN about it. Accompany their wives and find out more about it. Learn what it is like to receive love in a different way other than sensual or sexual. How to relax and be soothed by people who care without wanting anything back. How to be appreciated in a kindly fashion. The biological chemistry that men work on, I suspect, not being masculine, is having to be on guard and watching out for the dangers in life. They are the protectors of their women and children. It has been the cultural programming of men of our species for a long time. And under those conditions, yes, I can see where it is difficult to drop one's guard and to suddenly trust. That is the woman’s role, to trust and intuit and feel kindly towards others.
It is a difficult thing to do for men. That is why David and I invite couples to come in to meet us first, just to talk and share information. We don’t want to push massage on anyone, but that is our method of working with people and we do not charge money for it. It is free.
As I am beginning to understand it, men by and large have been so busy serving in the man's' role, that he cannot simply drop that role and open himself to receiving the support and nurturing from others. That is what we have decided to offer this to the women even if their men do not want to, or are not ready to accompany them. It is the women who are the leaders of the new age dawning upon us, the age of enlightenment or lighting up on the INSIDE. Light and love are synonymous, so when we light up the INSIDE, we are awakening the love inside. Women will be leading the way in the coming days.
Women have talents that men don't have. They just don’t have confidence in those talents. They have not been supported in those talents. They have been put down. Women have the softness that is inherent in human kind, and they are safeguarding that softness until it is time to bring it forth. David and I are offering to assist in bringing it forth. We love our men and we want to bring forth the softness in them. And the intuition and the feelings of being loved and cared for in our men. We have not been able to demonstrate that in the past ages because of the violence of our planet and cities.
Women have the inner connections that will help prepare the men to receive this finer activity of life, after they themselves have received the spiritual support and spiritual confidence that they are right and they have been all along. Now is the time for women to stop allowing themselves to be dismissed, and to be stronger and more daring and courageous in standing up for that softness that they represent in their inner hearts but have not dared express in their outer world.
It is a subtle but conscious act to press the will of love, kindness and nourishment outward onto life, after centuries of having been intimidated. Women are designed for this but have been forced to fold their wings because practical matters take precedence in a mentally-driven world. The divine feminine‘s purpose is to correct the mean and ugly and nourish the good and noble. Slow hands stroking with a warm heart is good for a person because there is a weaving together of both or all parties’ energies. It is used, not for foreplay, but for cellular healing, soul healing, which sensitizes a person to receive better, bigger, more and wiser. Slow massage is not foreplay for sex. Working the genitals is foreplay for sex. Slow massage with a warm heart all over the body is different. It prepares a person to receive love, to feel love, and to flow love back. This is the universal love. Love with a capital L. There is a “heart-of-God” feeling to it on a cosmic scale.
David and I work on the vibration of love. Love is not personal. Love is a universal principal. Is a spiritual intelligence. Most people think of love as something reserved for mates, lovers, families and very special friends, but it is actually the glue that holds everything together - galaxies and suns and planets and moons and the entire nature kingdom and allows civilizations to continue. And it holds people together, their relationships, communities and families, and neighbors and co-workers. When something is falling apart in life, think love. Shift the focus to love and picture love all around that part of life that is not working. Put some time into imagining Love.
Love has to be consciously applied and thought of. It's an effort to figure out what is the right vibration of love, how it feels, where to focus, what to do to bring it about. But finding the right feeling, texture or vibration of love is a worthwhile effort. When you hit on it you know. It’s transformational. It's a soothing, peaceful, mending vibration. The thing that is broken may not get fixed instantaneously, like magic, but YOU will be. And when YOU are soothed, mended and healed with the Love vibration, then your world begins to change. It will rearrange itself to conform to YOU. As David says, “After you have received this universal Love with a capital L, you will never be the same again.“ David channels more universal Love with a capital L than anyone else I know.
Warmly,
Diana of Anakosha
Newsletter 5/8/17
Loving Couples Massage Club Forming - Naples, Florida
A unique massage club for loving couples is forming in Naples for couples only. Contacts are being made. It will be a social atmosphere but a serious effort at massage, the main event, where couples can practice an exquisite type of massage with other couples. This is new. Never been done before. It's in a private home in Naples. There will be time to socialize, introduce yourself, ask questions, be prepped about behavior and etiquette. There are massage tables and lotions. It is sensual but not sexual. No prior experience is required to participate but it is for couples only. Singles later after a foundation is secured. David and I (Diana of Anakosha) are the leaders and we will demonstrate. No cost for this, no dues. To find out more, contact us HERE.
In addition, David is offering Tantric Massage
Tantric Massage for singles, and Tantric Training for couples. $100 a session for either. Tantric Massage is done in silence, with focus on the person on the table. There is a channeling of very high and refined energy into the body, moving through layers upon layers, bringing them into alignment for feelings of peace, bliss and love beyond normal. In contrast, a Tantric Training session is usually done with the woman on the table and her male partner assisting and learning. David's focus is divided then between the lady on the table and consciously explaining to the man what he is doing. To set an appointment contact David HERE.
The Newsletter
David and I met last Thursday on the mat in my sacred room with lovely quiet music playing and windows open to the breezes outdoors. It was a beautiful day and in my special room, which has seen a lot of action over the years, both group room action and spiritual silence with no movement, we cuddled warmly and told each other what was going on in our lives. What we were learning. What we were experiencing. What we were feeling. We have a sacred relationship.
And then we laid on our backs and in silence looked up past the ceiling where stars are glued - the kind that light up after the lights go out at night - watched our each our own visions unfold. Inner dreams that are unique to the soul. Then we talked. We had a lot to share. It was slow-down time with lengths of pause between us. And then we stopped talking all together and went into the timeless zone beyond movement. No, it wasn't sexual. It was Love. Ours is a sacred relationship that does not require sex.
The reason I describe our meeting is to let everyone know there is more to this than sexuality. The men are continuing to write to me asking about the sensual side of massage. They are interested in what women want, and how they can meet the requirements that women won't tell them. I responded to a man today in this vein. I posted my response (not his words, only mine) HERE. My mission - and David's mission - is to introduce the greater love, to remind everyone that there IS a greater love, a greater feeling of oneness, bliss, togetherness, rapture, and how to access it. Sex is irrelevant if you don't have love. It isn't accessed through the genitals. To have sex before making love, is like putting the cart before the horse and trying to figure out where to hook up the bridle and rains. It's not right. Make love first and then everything falls into place naturally.
It is a new era today as compared to 50 years ago when men (or male dominant thinking and control) ruled everything. The underground movement of feminine seeking more freedom, more space, more confidence has been a long-time struggle. It has been going on for a century or more, but only in the last 20 years or so have we noticed changes. Feminine power is the ability to love freely, without being controlled, owned, posses, ridiculed or repressed, like second-class citizens. Feminine power is not a fist raised in defiance. It is a warm embracing hug given from the heart without censoring it. Feminine power has been repressed in men too. They have a feminine side, also, and their ability to love freely has also been repressed and controlled by both women and authorities. We all need to grow the love that is within us, locked up.
It is still a male-dominant world. The struggle to be free of ridicule, repression and control is not a fight against authorities. It is a brutal fight with oneself, and one's own belief system and ingrained habit of lying to oneself. One's own hardened heart must be softened and melted from within the cage. That is the only way to breathe free. Then a great peace enters and loving others comes natural to us. Without jealousy and ownership and insecurity. Love awakens from within our own tissues, cells, fluids and bones of our bodies.
What our massage club for loving couples is all about, is getting together to swap massages and awaken the love within. We invite couples to join us. At the moment we are only seeking couples because we need organic balance for the sake of energies. Men's energies flow outward and downward to objectify relationships, and women's energies flow inward and upward to FEEL relationships. Too many men focus the energies towards physicality and sexuality; while too many women focus the energies inwardly. Our massage swap is practice in putting hands on other people with respect and caring. It's simply massage and it's happy and light without hidden agendas. It's simply massage.
I am communicating with people who write to Anakosha. We have been contacted by 11 couples. David and I have met three of them, well, four of them, and we will meet a fifth this week. We have massaged two couples. Well, actually three. Or four. It's hard to count because we have met people before we started counting and committing to the current protocol shown above. I know many more couples. There is a qualified list of people to reach out to. I am sharing this information in the spirit of transparency and openness, so the reader can get the idea of what this is all about. It's a new concept.
The rate of meeting couples is slow. We expected it to be slow because it's not a massage with hot sex tacked onto the end. A massage club with hot sex would bring swinging couples to us in droves. But, no. This is an introduction to love that could be considered ascension massage. Meaning lifting up to higher, more blissful realms. To another plane of being where you feel more whole, more vital, more relaxed, more loving and blissful. You feel the fetters fall away and you don't care if the fire alarm rings or the house is burning. You are beyond that. You feel free of the bonds that chain you to physicality. But it's also a human feeling. It is joyful, happy, and it enhances the love you feel for all people, everyone, and everything. Women love it, men are surprised by how good they feel.
Love is not only personal between a couple. Love is as wide as the ocean and deep as the sea. It does not have any boundaries. Love is a mysterious energy that can be accessed through human relatioinships. It flows when we know how to allow it to flow. No matter what situation you are in, you can access love. It can melt walls and barriers on every level. But - big but - we as a culture have been brainwashed to hold it back. We have put chain-link steel mesh around us to make sure we hold it back. You always have your personal relationship, but you expand your personal relationship in your own good time, when it's right for you and you are in agreement. When you expand your relationship to include others into it, then you expand it in a way that is unconditional and respectful. You don't expect anything back from them.
David and I are here to introduce you to this greater love which we are designed to enjoy as human beings. We are not designed to hold back on love but we need to learn how to expand it without hurting anyone. Or ourselves. We are doing this by offering readers to join a Massage Swap Club for Couples. We have to practice giving massage and receiving massage without expecting something in exchange - except a massage! We must experience it. Words are a poor substitute for experience.
The flowing begins with hands-on someone or receiving from someone. You can feel it almost immediately. A higher, wider, freer, happier state of bliss. It's not about sex but there is a second level to this club for loving couples, where you can take it further into physical lovemaking if each one chooses. There will never ever be a mandatory "have to" as in swinging. Access to the second level (at another time and place) is only gained by attending the first level preparatory training in the art of love. We are preparing people for greater ascending human love.
If you are interested, please contact us HERE and make an appointment to come in and meet with us. No cost, no expectations. Let's talk. If you as a woman alone or whose husband is not ready, we invite you to come in and meet us. No cost, no expectations. We need women to help us keep our focus on upward spiraling love.
Namaste,
Diana of Anakosha
Newsletter 5/1/17
Loving Couples Massage Club Forming - Naples, Florida
A unique massage club for loving couples is forming in Naples for couples only. Contacts are being made. It will be a social atmosphere but a serious effort at massage, the main event, where couples can practice an exquisite type of massage with other couples. This is new. Never been done before. It's in a private home in Naples. There will be time to socialize, introduce yourself, ask questions, be prepped about behavior and etiquette. There are massage tables and lotions. It is sensual but not sexual. No prior experience is required to participate but it is for couples only. Singles later after a foundation is secured. David and I (Diana of Anakosha) are the leaders and we will demonstrate. No cost for this, no dues. To find out more, contact us HERE.
In addition, David is offering Tantric Massage
Tantric Massage for singles, and Tantric Training for couples. $100 a session for either. Tantric Massage is done in silence, with focus on the person on the table. There is a channeling of very high and refined energy into the body, moving through layers upon layers, bringing them into alignment for feelings of peace, bliss and love beyond normal. In contrast, a Tantric Training session is usually done with the woman on the table and her male partner assisting and learning. David's focus is divided then between the lady on the table and consciously explaining to the man what he is doing. To set an appointment contact David HERE.
Now, on to the newsletter, which means me flowing a stream of consciousness.
About Tantra
Tantra is becoming quite a popular subject these days, right alongside interest in the spiritual principles and cosmic law. Weaving spiritual love and sensual love together is something of a mystery. David and I have explored Tantra and its ramifications from various angles, and we have reached a conclusion. David is offering his services in Tantric Massage, which is mostly women clients though he will accept a male client. I do not offer Tantric Massage myself, because the sexual orientation in some men and women (more the men) is too great for me to work with.
David, on the other hand, is much better able to work with women because the feminine body, biologically, does not have the same urgency pushing outward. Women do not have the same blockages that men have. The male body shuts down the emotional nature which, in turn, causes a buildup and concentration of earth energy in the lower parts of the body. The chakras are closed down. We'll work with chakras in everyone. Women, generally speaking have a different kind of need - a need for a more elevated loving, nurturing energy. David can do this. This is his specialty and greatest gift.
More about us
David and I have been learning and growing, each separately, for we do not live together. For those who haven't kept up with my blog on Anakosha, David is not my husband, he is a soul-mate friend and we share a common dream. We are collaborators in loving massage. We are each married to other people and happy with our home lives. But we have a common goal and we are taking steps to implement it. We both have experience with the higher form of love which transcends personal love. Love with a capital L. This is what the Massage Club will build on.
Personal love vs. impersonal love
In the Massage Club, we use personal love to begin with - the loving bond between each couple. A couple is already in love. They have already mated together and have a commitment. Even if you don't think of it as love, it is. For example, some couples don't make physical love much any more but they share life on many levels. That does not make them any less in love if they are not sexual any more. They have moved to higher planes of understanding. They have woven their energies together and expanded beyond being two separate individuals. They know what bonding means.
But deep inside, on the interior at soul level, there is often a vacuum or void which is not understood. Where does it come from? And how do we fill it? It is often the man who feels the urge first for more excitement. It could be the woman, but whether it's him or her, there comes a time when they need to speak about it. Are they jointly ready to expand their love further out, by inviting other people in? They don't think of it as love. They think of it as sex or intimacy. They have not yet been introduced to this greater Love with a capital L.
So sexually, how do we do this? How do we reach out to other people intimately, without becoming attached to them? Without falling in love, or becoming emotionally entangled in their lives? How do we prevent damaging the relationship? That is what personal love is. But there is another form of interaction with mature adults who can move past the personal attachment stage and love many people. We haven't been shown how to do that yet, but that's what our massage club for loving couples is all about.
There are lots of opportunities for sex - swinging, dating, cheating, open relationships, poyamory - the internet is flooded with social networks catering to this need. But none that offer the higher aspects of responsible, easy, casual, social intimacy. I have been told that this is not going to work, but David and I know that it will. We have personally lived it ourselves. It is the dream we share - to have many, many people all free and liberated from the confines of restricted, socially accepted norms. We are going to have to practice, though, and learn what that means. The massage club for loving couples will give us that opportunity to practice. Words won't be able to explain it. It is something that has to be experienced and shared with other live bodies.
It's not about sex or giving up sex. It's about engaging with others with an open heart and mind, and receiving from others who are also opening their hearts and minds. It's about trust. A more liberated and easy way of interacting with others is available as we raise our abilities to receive and trust others. This is easy to say but not so easy to do. Each one of us has had to grow in our ability to do that. It can't be forced. Nobody has been able to force-feed anyone something new. It is a matter of experiencing and understanding.
That's why I'm writing so much. I write a lot. My fingers keep moving over the keyboard. Most people don't want to read all this stuff and that's OK. It is my way of preparing the readership to understand what the massage club is about. It filters out those who don't want it. Some will be attracted to it. We are attracted to something when we are ready for it. In the case of a couple, they will have to talk about it. Are they ready to try this?
Impersonal love is personal love that doesn't focus on one person to the exclusion of others. Personal love is exclusive. A relationship is personal love binding two people together. You love your mate over and above everyone else. Polyamory is a new movement of individuals exploring the possibilities of loving more than one person at a time. They are working at expanding love but it's hard work. So, yes, marriages do break up when one of them falls in love with a different person and leaves the former mate. It does happen.
They haven't yet learned all there is to know about the larger love. How to love many people is a spiritual evolution. It is an evolution in consciousness that includes physical intimacy. In the massage club we stop short of sex during the massage for a number of reasons. All of which helps us to become more loving with more people, without separating and focusing on just one person.
We can love many people at the same time, just as we can love many children at the same time. We do it by not becoming entangled with their personal emotional issues. There are people who are what we call "serial monogamists". They want to love many people but they become emotionally involved and nest down with one. Then they become bored and break that bond to move on to the next lover, to become entangled with them. I knew a woman who married 13 men, one after the other, because she kept falling in love and becoming emotionally involved, and then she would find a new lover to become attached to, and divorcing the former one. She eventually found swinging and went back to her first husband with whom she is today.
Swinging is a first step in this learning curve to learn about not becoming emotionally involved, however, swinging succeeds by leaving love out of the equation. Love is critically important. Emotions and feelings are very important to the wholeness, wellness and happiness in an individual . It is time we learn how to incorporate love, emotions and feelings into our friendships, so we can remain open and healthy WITHOUT becoming emotionally involved. How to enjoy the richness of close personal bonding and experience that huge "out-of-body" feeling of being connected. We all have the desire for that greater experience.
Our massage club for loving couples will provide opportunities to shift some of our attitudes so we can accomplish that. As we open the doors of inner feelings and emotions without making it personal (like sex does) we will grow exponentially. The massage swaps will help us to mingle with the "right" group of couples who also want to go in this direction. It's a soul expanding journey.
It is an emotional and mental preparation and training for profound intimacy experiences. It is all up to each person, however. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink, the saying goes. When a person is ready, they're ready to open and feel. This massage swap idea provides opportunities. That's all. We are each a sovereign individual who gets it in his/her own right time. There is something magic in hands-on loving massage, and we can demonstrate it and practice it. Plus you'll meet others at a massage swap and what you do with those contacts is entirely up to you. You will meet people in this unusual group. Some will be compatible, others will not but we need each other to grow.
We need each other to expand our love and freedom
The massage club is being formed because we need each other. We need each other to expand our love and our freedom. We can't very well experience freedom at home alone with our primary mate. We already had our freedom time with them during our dating and honeymoon stage. Then we nested and settled down. It's time now for some more freedom. However, freedom with dignity and higher morals is different from the drunken "partying-til-dawn" kind of freedom. The latter is a road to disaster, while the first leads to feelings of exhilaration and ecstasy - the freedom to love many and all without restriction.
I realize this is a hard concept to grasp. If words alone could do it, we could stop right here. But it's going to take hands-on practicen. Hands-on engaging with experienced leaders in love to guide you. We need others to grow. Of course, we can join a bowling club, or a yoga club or rowing club, but intimate contact would not be part of the program, which is what we as a culture, as a people, as a world, need the most. Letting go of blockages we don't know we have. How to receive love. This is how we become more receptive to love.
Sensual but not sexual
Our planned massage club for loving couples is for the purpose of practicing love by engaging with people through hugs, strokes and touching. It is sensual but it's without emphasis on sex. It produces a larger sensation of being loved and cared for. There is nothing more intimate than stroking the naked body of a stranger with the stranger's spouse, and yours, alongside. We who have been to massage school have had practice massaging bodies, so we have the confidence. However, there are rules in massage school training. David and I have moved past that part. We have discovered something more liberating and connecting that we want to share with others so others can do it too. It's not a physical technique. It requires an inner shift of focus, from head (brain) to feelings within the body.
The fear of intimacy
This is hugely frightening to do for those who have no experience in body work. Being afraid of intimacy is common. Everybody is. Our culture trained us to be afraid. Walls have been carefully and expertly constructed to keep us safe from intimacy. And it's all an illusion We dissolve those fears by developing trust.We develop trust by the time to meet and talk first, and by sharing intimate information. In words. This opens the mind beyond what is normally accepted. Breaking the illusion of what's appropriate and acceptable is the first step in developing trust.
When we start engaging with others by sharing information we have already broken the first barrier of being intimate. The second barrier is physically touching. David and I share with you techniques that further help in building trust, because you don't want to inadvertently do something that will cause someone to close down. We really need to practice this. We all do. Me included.
As we practice swapping massage and melding energies, we are opening ourselves to more love. We are leaning to receive the honor and respect the others are giving to us. Our culture is awash with disrespect and suspicioni, but we are capable of higher qualities. We know we are, but we don't live them because social etiquette demands we be one of the guys or one of the girls. To show respect, honor, decency and principled behavior, we are seen as "she thinks she's better than us."
There are very simple guidelines. Everybody knows the principles in their heart. We just never get the opportunity to practice them "out loud". In the open where others can see them and be raised by them. Elevating thoughts bring elevating feelings. We practice stroking with sacredness. It is fulfilling. It melts barriers.
Personal love expands to impersonal love
Personal love is the first step in building love to something larger than "one". When two "ones" come together and become joined in a relationship, they have multiplied the love within them. They merge their personal love to become a larger love. A relationship has already begun the evolutionary step of expanding. A single person is not ready for this yet. That is why we are inviting couples to begin with in our massage club. The process is already underway.
When the time comes to start discussing what to do to enrich the relationship, there are many ways to go. The bottom line is a desire to expand the love they have between them to new heights and depths. It requires other people. It requires interacting and engaging other people more freely and loosely than what we've been programmed for. We're stepping outside of the box that our parents were in. We're ready to expand the rules and try something new and different.
It's not about sex
A couple talks about where did the excitement go? And it starts out being about sex. We get hung up over the sex thing but it's not about sex. It's rather sinister to think that we've been conditioned to think sex is all there is. But what's really going on in a monotonous monogamous relationship is a desire to have some freedom. It's about loosening the chains that bind, but the chains are out-dated belief systems. Boredom comes about from a need for fresh air. Innocent fresh air. The belief and programming of our culture is to find a new sex partner, or an additional sex partner or get into swinging for more sex.
But the truth is, we want to enjoy more excitement. To be free to spread our wings. Sex may be exciting for some people, but it's a turn-off for a lot of others. The greater desire is to engage with others more freely. And we can. We don't have to stay inside the box if we have a place to go to practice loosening our belts and enjoying more freedom with more people - and with guidelines in how to change our attitudes so we don't hurt ourselves or others. It's time we dismantled what has been drummed it into us. Sex is the most obvious. It comes at us from every angle, making us think if we don't have a romantic sexual person in our lives that we are losers. It is a depressing thought which leads many people to do terrible things. We must change the attitude to one that doesn't require sex as part of the need.
It's not about sex. It's about connection and the feeling of excitement. Let's loosen the clothes that restrict and be more natural. Nature does not conform to one species, but engages all species and a free-roaming blend of the law of attraction and rejection. By becoming more natural, we are drawn to those who are suited to us. It's important to engage with others without becoming emotionally entangled. The need to feel alive is not about sex, it's about feeling. Period. How do we get to feel more? By engaging with others more openly and freely. That is the reason for the massage club for loving couples. There is a bigger picture involved.
The Massage Club - how to join
Contact us by sending a message and introducing yourself. Couples only, please. A couple can be a dating couple who care for each other. We would like to meet you first, and demonstrate our unique method of massage. There is no cost. No dues. Once we meet, chat and demonstrate our massage, you will be placed on our invitation list to receive scheduled massage swap dates. At each massage swap, the only thing required is that you give one massage and receive one. For older people who have a difficult time standing, there are stools. It is possible to give loving strokes while sitting on a stool. I get tired myself sometimes and always have a stool nearby.
The "who to massage" will be up to each individual or couple. There will be time to get to know the others before going to the tables. David and I will demonstrate how to channel the highest form of love through your hands. You will see how gratifying it is to be in league with so many loving people. It is giving and receiving. Not just one sided.
We are asking couples to meet us at David's studio in Naples, one couple at a time. We are growing the Massage Club gently and sending our message out in a soft approach. This club is not open to the random public. There is a filtering process. We want us to meet first.
Well, it's time to stop this endless musing about it. I do tend to write a lot. But it is
how I get the message out. Through words. If you want to read more of my writing, go to my blog on Anakosha HERE.
I will be sending more newsletters in the future. If you don't want to receive them, let me know by returning this email with REMOVE ME on the subject line.
Thank you for listening.
Love and Light,
Diana of Anakosha
Newsletter 4/22/17
Massage Club Forming for Loving Couples
sponsored by Anakosha.org
Anakosha is announcing the formation of a unique massage club for loving couples. This new club is for the purpose of expanding the energy of Love, with a capital L. All ages are welcome. Whether you are a newly-in-love relationship or a long-time married relationship seeking to spice things up - or a highly evolved couple who already know these things - all body types and nationalities are welcome. We are all SO different. But note: English is important.
I am Diana of Anakosha. I have been maintaining the Anakosha website for 20 years. I have tried to start a massage club in the past but I have not succeeded so far. Some of you know me as a long-time hostess of swing parties along with my husband. But swinging focuses on sex and, though I have enjoyed the many friends I met in swinging, my desire was not being fulfilled to expand the love side of my nature. A desire began to build in me to have a group of couples who also wanted to expand love beyond the sexual zones. Couples, because I needed women to help me; men always took it down into sex. This dream has continued to intensify over the years because swinging has become a barrier. It stops me. Swinging has an unspoken rule of "No love in the lifestyle; it's just sex."
I could not seem to break out of that solid belief structure for many, many years, tightly woven as it was into the hearts and minds and belief patterns of of everyone involved. But on the other hand it served as a rich cocoon in which a yearning grew in me for something more. This yearning popped out into the open in a surprising way.
I personally gave up swinging. And as soon as I went public that I was giving up swinging, I met a man who had the same dream. He is another massage therapist equally desirous of exploring and liberating Love. Notice the Capital L in Love because that is how we differentiate the higher form of Love from personal love.
David is my partner, not my husband. We are a couple, but not in the romantic sense. We are married to other people. We are soul mate friends whose love of massage and the higher form of Love brought us into collaboration and the sharing of a dream. It didn't come easy at first, we had to work at it. But we are both experienced in therapeutic massage and have expanded beyond what is taught in massage schools.
It's not only in swinging that Love is squelched. In our massage practices love blossoms often, easily, naturally. We are trained, both as professionals and private citizens, to squelch it because it simply isn't done. It isn't appropriate. It's against the rules of our culture to allow love to flow freely. We think it will lead to sex, but actually the reverse is true.
When we squelch love, we hold back a natural flow. The Love from Mother Earth travels upward through us to meet the downward flow coming from Father Sky. It is a feedback loop that keeps us alive. When we repress the flow of love in us, we block the flow. Blocking the flow builds desire. Desire builds up from our repression, bigger and bigger, and soon it demands release. And all because we block the natural flow within us. Love is innate and it demands to be free.
We think love is a spiritual quality, and it's true. But it is also a human quality. We have only explored personal love as a people, but there is a larger Love and a more advanced Love that has yet to be explored. Because we don't understand it, we are afraid of it. We are afraid of its power. We are afraid of its intimacy. We are afraid of what it might do to us. Yes, I have felt that fear, and the jealousy that comes from holding it back, but I have experienced the larger Love too, and I trust it now.
Swingers do not want to go there, and that's appropriate for them. But there are others who are ready to move past that and begin exploring the greater Love - the greater Love while in the physical. Our goal for this club is to practice flowing Love through massage. Massage is our language of communication. It is a silent language. Love is felt through feelings. Higher and more refined feelings that reach into bliss, ecstasy and more. Joy and liberation increases as we allow love to flow without stopping it. Love flows best when it's shared, like water when it's turned on at the faucet. It cannot flow if it's turned off.
Each couple who practices massage with others, probably strangers in the beginning, but later to become friends, will increase the flow of love between the two of them. They will then bring that largesse back home to the family. You can't help radiating love when it's active. I've seen it at the parties. Love radiates like a bulb in a lamp that has been turned up to high. The person glows. This is not from the average sexual encounter. I've seen plenty of those. This is when love is flowing.
David and I love that massage is available to us as a tool. We are grateful to have the training. We are ready. We love sharing massage. We have met with a few couples already and we have been validated. This is the way to go. There is a saying, "Love isn't something that was put here to stay; Love isn't Love 'til it's given away." We want to form a massage club so we can share massage with others. We are building a list of contact names who are on the same page as we are. When we have sufficient numbers, we will schedule a private meet n' greet with loving massages to go along with it. We are now reaching out to let others know what we are doing.
Our approach is sensual, but not sexual. Of the many couples who have contacted me in the past, quite a few are interested in Tantra. We are not teaching Tantra, but consider this a preliminary preparation. Like you have to learn English before you can get into kindergarten or the first grade. The step before the first step leading to Tantra is learning about Love with a capital L. It's an attitude. The quality of Love comes first. We all need to learn about Love with a capital L before learning the techniques of Tantra. Because Tantra is the flowing of Love with a capital L.
David and Diana are not our real names. We remain anonymous until we know you in person. We are not asking for money. There is no cost. No dues. We are unfolding a dream and we don't know where the dream is going to lead. We have an idea but we can't KNOW it until we start flowing it with more couples and sharing the dream so there is participation going on. We feel it has huge potential but we are going to have to learn as we go. I feel badly that several years ago I wasn't ready to respond to this couple when they wrote me several years ago:
(quote) "We have had a lifetime of experiences and have shared them with many along the way. We have discussed the nature of divine Love and its connection to sexual expression. We have visited several locations where invitations to participate in extra-sexual contact was offered but was purely that, sexual. We have not found a place or group of people that places their focus on loving relationships so we have not participated in the sharing that we are convinced has to be done through Love. We have much to share with others that goes beyond the sexual encounter and are careful with whom we share the adventures of this incredible lifetime. After reading your words in this website there is a feeling of understanding regarding the role sex is meant to be discussed and shared. We are divine creations and are here to learn and teach one another through loving relationships. We invite you to respond if you feel the energy and Love behind our intentions." (end quote)
I am sharing this message with you, and I think this couple won't mind because you won't know who they are anyway. But I'm sharing it because so much is portrayed here. You can FEEL it. There is more waiting for us to experience. In the beginning there will be only a few responding to this, but it will grow. The greater experience of love is ready to pour forth. We each have a different outer persona so we will not all be attracted to one another, but underneath the mask we are nameless cluster of feelings and knowings. The simple effort of massaging with kindness to and from a stranger provides a certain "quickening". A spark of recognition. A feeling. A perception. A prior life memory. That's when differences diminish and energy fields merge. It's all done in silence. Many, many spontaneous healings are accomplished in this manner, silently, without words.
Our location is Naples, Florida. We will meet first in David's professional studio to talk and then demonstrate massage. Contact us "http://www.anakosha.org/contact.html" to set up an appointment. After that we will meet in a private home that has been prepared for this. It's out in the country. Groups will be small, probably under under 10 couples. Each time we meet we will include introductions and snacks and practice nudity, optionally. Swapping massage is the main reason we're getting together. Again, it is for couples only, with apologies to singles. Maybe later. We won't do any massaging on the first day we meet, but if we all feel good about it, we'll schedule a second meeting to demonstrate our energy approach.
Again, please send a message to us "http://www.anakosha.org/contact.html" or simply reply to me above. Introduce yourselves. If you are not in the best of health, do not let that hold you back. Let it be an incentive. But you will need to help give too. We are seniors ourselves. And I can tell you that each time I give a massage I feel brighter, healthier and happier when done, than when I started. It is the flowing of love that improves the quality of our life force.
I will be sending more newsletters in the future. If you don't want to receive them, let me know by returning this email with REMOVE ME on the subject line.
Thank you for listening.
Love and Light,
Diana of Anakosha
